Rude XYZ Sorority Girls

BrownEyedGirl · #1 11-02-2001, 12:18 PM

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ZTAngel · #2 11-02-2001, 12:23 PM

I just can't believe you let them stay in your car even after that one girl told you to shut the f up and stop being a b*tch! I would've dropped them off in the middle of nowhere. And, if they didn't get out of my car, that nice police officer that had pulled you over, I would've let him know that I had some girls in MY car that wouldn't leave. Now that the scene is over, I'd probably do revenge. Maybe not the most mature of things but neither were those girls. I'd possible say something to panhellenic and maybe even mention the disaster to some of the guys in other fraternities.

DeltaBetaBaby · #3 11-02-2001, 12:51 PM

#1. Why in the hell did you put up with this? You allowed these girls to take advantage of you. How, exactly, did they "make" you drive them to random apartments? Why did you violate your own insurance policy? Learn to put your foot down.

#2. You should talk to the president of your house, who should contact the president of thier house. It is much better to settle these things between the chapters. Getting Panhellenic involved isn't good for either one of you.

Sue_XO · #4 11-02-2001, 01:07 PM

If you are ever in this situation again - get support from your sisters. As soon as all the XYZ girls piled into your van- turn off the van, take the keys with you- go inside the party and get about 10 of your sisters to come out with you and explain to the other group that this is not their van and your insurance will not cover them.

You alone- they just totally bullied you around because they had the #'s.

And yes, at your next chapter meeting- bring up the whole incident- that was just too out of control for it to be kept just to yourself and I def. would want to know if one of my sisters were treated like that!

James · #5 11-02-2001, 01:16 PM

Sweetie,

You let yourself be victimized by people you barely even know for absolutely no profit.

I mean I don't mind getting screwed from time to time, but ask me first, and gimme a little foreplay to put me in the mood. These girls gave it to you raw and then complained that you weren't enjoying it enough to want to do extras for them.

When ever I let myself get victimized because I was either timid or wasn't prepared for the situation, and we have all been there, I do some soul searching to find out why I allowed it to happen. And then I mentally rehearse a more appropriate response so not only that situtuation can be handled but others like it.

I have long since stoped feeling any obligation to give rides. Although there are many times when I'll pay their cab fare home from a place when I don't want them in my car.

One of my favorite responses is: "which part of NO didn't you understand?" or just refusing to move, or unlock a door, or further discuss the matter. If I have decided not to do it nuclear weapons are not going to compell me, let alone most people's feeble attempts at guilt or bitchy intimidation.

For future reference: ZTAngel was absolutely right, once they start calling you names like that either just stop and get them to behave, stopping has a great effect, or kick them off (police help may have been a bit much if they were drinking, wierd repercussions if a sorority were suspended because you were pissed when you didn't have to let them on anyway.) but they would have gotten off eventually if you just stopped and started napping.

As far as an official complaint: you still violated procedure, and anyone with a clue, and that isn't your friend, is going to wonder why you let them on and why you continued to deal with them(at least guys would).

So I would try a different punishment approach. I would use guilt. Most people are responsive to it. Personally, I have dated too much to have guilt gland still, but thats just me. I would have your sorority draft an official looking letter than states that you as a the driver bent your own rules to make sure that the girls of XYZ got safely to and from the party because you respected and admired them a lot as people, Sisters, and an organization. And then I would describe at lenth the way you were treated naming names where possible, and further emphasizing that despite outrageous provocation you still hand delivered them to their doors like the weak-willed, snivelling, incompetent, sluttly, litle-daddy's girls ,who probbaly don't even know how to open their car hoods without AAA help, that they turned out to be.

Well on second thought I would leave that little part out

. But you get the drift.

Before the letter went out, delivered in person and privately to their president, and in the next 24 hours, I would get the Fraternities to agree to mix with you and another group unless XYZ provides ALL the shuttles next year with independant drivers for your girls. They will probably go for it if you send someone that has sufficient personal attachment with them and you threaten to pull out yourselves.

That way you don't deprive their new and innocent girls of the experience but still make sure that the bad girls are held accountable.

Hope things work out for you.

maggieaxid · #6 11-02-2001, 02:31 PM

They totally took advantage of you!

One way my chapter stopped doing this (ie ending up taking other glo women home) was to get Nextel Walkie Talkie Cell Phones (we only have 3 and they aren't that expensive). One we keep at the house where that night's dispatcher is and one to each driver. If there is a problem, you can beep the person at the house to let them know whats going on, or are able to communicate with the other driver to see if they are in a similar situation.

In the past my GLO was the "sober drivers" for other organizations and they would do it for us. One year we did it for a certain group and when it was their turn to do it for us they didn't have enough cars, didn't show up, or when they did they were so completely rude. That stopped real quick. We now only do it for one other organization.

But if i had been in your situation i would have taken the keys gotten out of the van and left them stranded!

lifesaver · #7 11-02-2001, 05:10 PM

That was some great advice. From everyone else as well. I would go along with James' advice on the letter thing, but I would cc the regional director of their sorority, their local alum chapter and their director of chapter services. All this information can be gained from the web, and their natl's will come down on them 'cause most likely the girls in XYZ soror broke state law by having an open container of alcohol in the shuttle. It's probably not just a no-no to have booze on the bus, but illegal as well. A letter to just their chap president might likely end up in the trash. If you cc the big wigs (without getting the school or PHC involved) you'll still get them busted. Fu*k the reprocutions. Do you understand the sit here? I dont think you fully do. YOUR chapter could be placed on probation because you not only violated your ins policy (a big no-no), but violated the law by allowing them to ride in the shuttle with open containers. (Legally YOU are the one responsiable, as the driver) You seem to be worried about reprocutions. Will you still feel the same way when they get off scott-free and its your chapter thats on probation for violating the rules and not allowed to have any social functions for the next year/semester (while the other group laughs about it)??? Sounds a bit bad, but someone is gonna get screwed here, best not be you. Being nice in these situations only gets you screwed. I just hope you at least get a cigarette outta the deal.

I stand by ya tho. Us southerners tend to be a bit revenge minded. I think it was that whole reconstruction thing.

ZTAngel · #8 11-03-2001, 02:49 PM

I just can't get over that the policeman stopped you for going only seven miles over! He must've been really bored.....

In Florida, a cop cannot ticket you for going only five above (anything above is fair game but most cops won't waste their time unless you're going 10 and above). Something about the radar guns being about five miles off. Does any other state have that?

justamom · #9 11-03-2001, 07:49 PM

I keep coming back to this thread...I have to say JAMES IS RIGHT!
I'm not familiar with what being a shuttle bus driver entails, what your responsibilities might be. I also can appreciate you not wanting to ditch them in the middle of the night. BUT MY DEAR...
I would rat them out so fast and smile at them while I was doing it. I am NOT so nice, in fact even at my age I have a solid streak of spitefulness in me. When you allow yourself to be walked on, expect to be treated like a doormat. In fact, if that had happened to ME, I'd make sure they got punished to the "full extent of the law".
If you are my friend, I will do ANYTHING for you. Screw with me and you're TOAST!