It's a Week Before your Wedding and you just found out....

DableST_1 · #1 10-11-2001, 11:59 PM

That you might be HIV positive.... would you tell your fiance'????? what would you do??

Well there is a movie coming out and my BEST FRIEND MILAUNA JEMAI is starring as one as the supporting actress. I've seen Previews of this movie, and it is a VERY POWERFUL MOVIE. This is a movie about a young man who has EVERYTHING... He's about to get a promotion on his job, He's marrying the love of his life, and his best friend is about to get off his butt and do something with his life. Unfortunatley someone from his past comes and destroys it by All telling him that he might be HIV Positive. He takes the HIV test and he has to wait ONE WEEK before the results, and he is getting married in ONE WEEK

!!! I reccommend that EVERYONE PLEASE come out and show your support and watch this movie. IT"s DEEP!!! So before you have sex again.................. Make sure you watch ONE WEEK!!! It premiers on October 19th. Although there aren't any major actors or actresses in ONE WEEK, please remember that even Angela Bassett, Denzel, and Nia, had to start out somewhere. Please visit the movie's website at www.oneweekthemovie.com for more details!!!! You can also see the reviews by Loretta Devine, Robert Townsend, Lisa Raye, Issac Hayes ect..
It is directed/written by Carl Seaton, (Member of Kappa Alpha Psi) and Starring Kenny Young, also a member of Kappa Alpha Psi Incorporated.

Thanks ALL!!!

"V"

DableST_1 · #2 10-12-2001, 12:12 AM

Just out of curiousity....... What would you do if you were in this situation???? Would you tell your husband/ wife to be, or would you keep it a secret????

Annnndd....... ..........if you just found out your husband/wife to be just told you that they just found out they are HIV positive a WEEK before your wedding, what would you do? Would you marry them still, call off the wedding????? Don't get me wrong, I do know that in some states you have to take a blood test prior before getting married, but what if that was NOT required and they just told you that they were HIV positive???? How would you react??

Can't wait to read the replies!!

"V"

FuturePhD · #3 10-12-2001, 10:38 AM

I can't even contemplate how you could say you love somebody, enough to marry them, and NOT tell them...At least give them the opportunity to decide for themselves if they want to stay in the relationship or not...in my opinion, that's the true test of love. And personally, if it's a week before my wedding, then I KNOW that this is the person that God sent for me to marry, my mate can have HIV, three legs, and no arms, I'll still walk down the aisle, and stand by him, for life.

korkscru · #4 10-12-2001, 02:48 PM

PSYCHOTIC AND MAJOR DEPRESSIVE BEHAVIOR, GCers!!!! I agree that I could not POSSIBLY imagine how that feels. But I DO know that I probably wouldn't get married. Enough said.

AlacrityZK · #5 10-12-2001, 03:08 PM

I would definately tell my fiancee. I know that it sounds easier said than done, but I would have to let him know. If I was faithful to him only, then he may have it as well or he could have been the one to give it to me. A friend of mine, was in a situation similar to this. She had an STD and before she and her now fiance got together, she told him about it. At first, he was upset, but then in a couple of days, he told her how much he cared for her and that he was there for her. 2 weeks later, they began to date and now they are to be married!!!!

My advice would be to seek guidance from God first before telling your fiancee about this. Also seek advice from a professional if you feel the additional help is needed. Be prepared for the worst outcome. Then go from there!

Duval_Lady · #6 10-17-2001, 05:47 AM

Man, this is deep...I'm getting married in 2 months. If I found out my hubby was positive....I guess it depends on when he got it. I mean, if the person he got it from was from way back when we were kids, I would still marry him. Till' death do us part. I'd rather spend a year connected to the one I TRUELY love. But if that son of a gun cheated and got it....boy looka here!

ClassyLady · #7 10-19-2001, 12:14 PM

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Originally posted by FuturePhD
I can't even contemplate how you could say you love somebody, enough to marry them, and NOT tell them...At least give them the opportunity to decide for themselves if they want to stay in the relationship or not...in my opinion, that's the true test of love. And personally, if it's a week before my wedding, then I KNOW that this is the person that God sent for me to marry, my mate can have HIV, three legs, and no arms, I'll still walk down the aisle, and stand by him, for life.

I totally agree. I could never stand before God and have someone pledge their love to me with a secret like this standing in between us.

I would tell him and let him make his own decision. And, I would definitely make sure that he gets tested himself. I would probably postpone the wedding because I would be in NO condition to get married myself. I would be experiencing every emotion that has a name and in no shape to make a decent wife for anyone.