ENDING A FRIENDSHIP

dchi_pride · #1 10-12-2001, 12:13 AM

Hi there! D-chi pride with some more food for thought. Recently my ex-girlfriend who I dated for some time earlier this year wants to hook up with one of my brothers. We have a strict policy on this matter in our house (a “Bros before hoes clause” so to speak). I broke up with her because she lost interest in me and was negligent in our relationship. It hurt me to do it, and it was hard to move on for a while. Since then, I have seen others and I have moved on.

The problem lies in the fact that since the breakup, I have heard stories from friends in other fraternities that she boasts to be a “female player”! The brother (the one she’s interested in) said that he isn’t interested and would rather meet other sisters, yet she seem to be persistent on the matter, to the point where she blocks when he talks to her sisters. She claimed to be my friend yet the only time she called is to see when we had a party (probably to come over and hit on him or another brother). I don’t want to feel like brother#1 on her list and I feel it is insulting because I don’t want to share what we had with anyone else who is close to me. I’m also upset at her because I have friends in a different sonority than hers, and she says that all the girls in that house are fat (she’s not one to talk. She put on a couple since we broke up!)

Most of my brothers, and some of her sister support my decision to end our friendship because I felt that it was an unhealthy friendship and that I believe that she rates friendships on what she can get from them. Am I doing the right thing because it will be difficult to not be a friend with someone who I was close to and who is over at the house, and hanging out with brothers on a regular basis.

ZTAngel · #2 10-12-2001, 12:45 AM

She obviously has no respect for you or your brothers. I personally wouldn't want to be friends with an ex who did that. It's as if she's purposely trying to hurt you.

The1calledTKE · #3 10-12-2001, 08:22 AM

Good call dchi. Talk with you brothers and ban her from the house to. Don't let mess with you or with any of you brothers no more.

AOIIAngel · #4 10-12-2001, 08:23 AM

I agree. Girls like that make me sick. Gives us NICE girls a bad image!! You deserve better friends (and girlfriend) than that. So I say move on sweetie!

MoxieGrrl · #5 10-12-2001, 09:59 AM

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Originally posted by dchi_pride
who is close to me. I’m also upset at her because I have friends in a different sonority than hers, and she says that all the girls in that house are fat (she’s not one to talk. She put on a couple since we broke up!)

Ack!! She's being petty and jealous by being rude about your friends in other sororities. Don't sink to her level! Attack the behavior, not the person!

My question is...what kind of girl would want to be known as a "female player"? Thank God you are out of that relationship, DChi!

KSig RC · #6 10-12-2001, 10:10 AM

Hey DX - tough situation man . . . Two words for ya:

BLACK . . .

. . . LIST.

Sounds like this girl sucks at life - no reason to bring that sort of derisive crap into your daily life. You're doing the right thing.

KillarneyRose · #7 10-12-2001, 10:17 AM

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Originally posted by dchi_pride
I have heard stories from friends in other fraternities that she boasts to be a “female player”!

Back where I come from, there's another name we use for that kind of girl! Starts with an S and rhymes with nut. Anyhoo....DX hun, just let her be and forget she exists. People like that you don't need in your life!

James · #8 10-12-2001, 02:02 PM

Seriously dude, she's giving you that kind of grief and not even sleeping with you? Kick that baggage to the curb . . .

madmax · #9 10-12-2001, 02:56 PM

whats her number?

AlphaChiS2K · #10 10-12-2001, 07:58 PM

Sounds like this girl gets off on attention... so one-up her and just ignore her. It will drive her CRAZY... she's a groupie, she's not worth your time, and you're so much better than that.

BTW... DX on my campus is a great bunch of guys

I really respect your organization.

Good luck with the Wackjob Ex...

tridgirl · #11 10-12-2001, 08:32 PM

We have a name for those here too.... frat rat. Ditch her and her superficial butt move on who needs enimies when you have a friend like her.

Miami1839 · #12 10-13-2001, 12:20 PM

Talk to your brothers and have her banned. She definitely sounds like trash. Just think. She doesnt deserve a nice guy like yourself and she lost out on the real prize. Girls like that just need learn and grow up. She'll probably be one of those old maids 40 unmarried or married like 20 times. LOL

We never had D-Chi at our school(GMU) but we had a sociology professor, Rick Shaw that was the coolest. All the greeks including my brothers loved him.

Kevin
Beta Theta Pi Alumnus
Epsilon Mu
George Mason '97