the ones that got away - some for the good, others for the worse

alphachiohmy · #1 10-09-2001, 04:23 PM

Anyone think about that guy(or girl for the guys) you talked to all night and clicked with, were instantly attracted to like crazy, or talked for a few times over the phone and hung out with(maybe kissed, but nothing else), and then just disappeared from your life? I have a few that "got away," but its always fun to think back.

There was DJ, a 23 yo just out of the Marines. About 5'8', cute blond hair/blue eyes, but even better was conversation. He was such a motivated person and had a good head on his shoulders. He came up to me at a bar ( I was in a Guess dress), so he came up to me and basically said," Guess ? ...Guess my name?" And after 30 tries, I gave up. But I hung out with him for 2 nights, nothing ever really happened. Then I got really busy with AXO, homecoming and never saw him again.

One more that got away, Steve, met him at a bar in St. Louis. Was a cutie, My friend and I met him and his friend, and being that we were nowhere near as drunk as anyone else at the club and didn't plan on getting that way, We all hung out all night. Again, he was absolutely gorgeous and awesome to talk to. We planned on meeting again, but school started up and I moved back.

Ironically, I dont think bars are the best place to meet guys, but that's where I met my "ones that got away." But they got away and I'll probably never see them again. Still I wonder every now and then ...

Dejajeva · #2 10-09-2001, 04:31 PM

I have one that got away....kind of...

There was this guy I met down in florida...named Denver....oh, gosh he was so sweet, and such great conversation and...we totally hit it off...dated off and on...I could have fallen for him hardcore.. We tried to stay in contact when he left florida...but....just somehow we lost track of eachother. I still think of him every so often, hope he's doing well.

#3 10-09-2001, 04:36 PM

I have many of those....

There was Mike, grad from West Point goalie of the lacrosse team. Met through mutual friends and sayed in touch writing. Havent heard from him since february.

Another Mike lived next door soph year and it was atrraction from the start on both parts. We hung out all the time. He was in my room constantly, we'd be up until 3-4am. Always ate dinner together, partied etc. Then he stopped hanging so I thought he lost interest. His friend from home came down and he liked me, so we hung out for the not (NO sex or anything like that, just hung out). I asked him the next day if he was pissed...he said no, but they way he said it i knew he was. I felt bad and still do. But me and his friend and me telling him I wouldnt sleep with any of my guy friends ruined it from me. Oh Well

How about the ones who had girlfriends/boyfriends, but there was still attraction and you both knew youd be perfect for ech other? I have one of those too.

IowaHawkeye · #4 10-09-2001, 06:19 PM

ya know how in "my best friends wedding" julia and dermot have "one hot month".. well that's how it was with me and this guy i have known for years. we spent so much time together and had so much fun together. he is the type of guy you can stay up all night talking to about everthing and anything and never once wuld the conversation cease or be dul. he was and still is one of the sweetest, funniest, most amazing guys i know. he went abroad for the spring semester and even though we promised to keep in touch and so on.. we drifted apart. when i saw him like a month ago, i couldn't help but think, damn, how could i have let that one go!

ees125 · #5 10-10-2001, 05:05 AM

Once again something similar to UMgirl...a West Point grad I met through friends while we were both still in college. Kept in touch for 4 years now and have seen each other about 5 times total, but every time things are just great. We can talk for hours, have the best time dancing, get along really well, people always mistake us for a couple...but the distance gets in the way, and something else that I have yet to put my finger on. Asked me to his Ring Dance and to this day I regret saying no, always wonder what could have happened (had a boyfriend from the Naval Academy at the time he asked...talk about rivalry!).

#6 10-10-2001, 01:09 PM

Darn West Point guys.....he was goalie for the lacrosse team too! I love sports. Hey ees, maybe your guy knew mine

Betarulz! · #7 10-10-2001, 02:29 PM

Well being a freshmen it's a HS cutie that I was completely miffed about this past spring of my senior year. We met at a benefit concert being put on by her schools National Honor Society--she was selling cd's for one of the bands. She, her friend, my friend and me sat and talked for almost the entire concert, causing me to even miss one of my favorite bands (Ultimate Fakebook if anyone has ever heard of them) set. She reminded me of the model James King (it's a girl I swear) although obviously not that gorgeous. The following night after I got off of work she and two of her friends, along with my friend, came over (my parents were out of town). She and I talked until 3 that morning, me slightly drunk, while her friend from the previous night and my friend did some rather interesting things while "checking e-mail" unbeknownst to us. This girl seemed like a perfect match for my situation, she didnt' want anything too serious b/c we would be graduating in about 6 weeks, she didn't care if a guy wouldn't call her everynight (she had broken up w/ her last bf b/c they hadn't seen each other in 3 weeks, and it bothered him). We hung out again as a group the original 4 of us, about two weeks later--She told me she would have gone to prom with me, but she had a state musical festival that was being held 4 hours away (this was true).

Over the next three weeks, it proved impossible to get a hold of her. I talked to her once, and she promised that we do something together, but I never heard from her. Finally I called her from a friends cell that she didn't know the number of, and I she picked up--she swore that she never checked her messages ever, saying she didn't know how. Finally I asked for her house number--it turned out to be bogus, and I left a scathing message on her cell, b/c I knew that she did check b/c I had been with her once when she checked, and she also told someone how to do it. I never actually cared if we went out or not, but the lack of respect for her not to be honest enough and say that she didn't like me like that really pissed me off. All I ever ask is that someone will tell me one way or the other. She still sticks out in my mind because she would have been the hottest girl I had ever gone out with but...anyways she's at Kansas State now in some house, I'm not sure which, but perhaps I'll run into her when my pledge class is down there for our sneak. That'd be quite humorous.

KSigkid · #8 10-11-2001, 12:25 AM

I try not to think about that stuff, but there are a couple I can't help thinking of:

Last year, there was this girl, really cool, an absolute sweetheart. She and I kinda clicked, she was so nice and really cute - and we were talking for a while, and I got her number. It ends up that I started going out with my (now ex) girlfriend later that week, so I never gave her a call. I ended up seeing her at the end of the year, and she was going home with another guy. We talked, and I apologized for not calling her, but she seemed upset, understandably so. This was the first time I hadn't called a girl back, and felt horrible about it - felt like I had let down an awsome girl. Well, she went back with the other guy, who I was friends with - and it turns out she talked about me the whole time, how much she had wanted to go out with me. It was really awsome of her to say, made me feel a little worse though.

The second one was way back in high school. A girl I had been friends with for a while, who I am still convinced is the perfect girl for me. Well, turns out we liked each other at different points, but neither of us knew it. She's since met the guy who she thinks she's in love with - and I've gone my own way. Still though, I think of her as the girl for me - really nice, fun to be with, smart, cute.

As I said, I try not to think about it, because you can't go back in time to change things - but every once in a while, I see the girls, and I can't help but get a thought or two about what would have/could have happened. Both girls are absolute sweethearts, I still talk to one, don't talk to the other - but I guess that's the way things turn out in this sort of stuff.

ees125 · #9 10-11-2001, 07:32 AM

UMGirl...when class was "your" West Point guy in? Mine was 2000.

#10 10-11-2001, 02:00 PM

ees....this is getting a lil weird cuz mine was 2000 too.