Have you ever stood anyone up? Have you ever been stood up?

Xanthus · #1 12-28-2009, 03:27 AM

Discuss.

pshsx1 · #2 12-28-2009, 03:31 AM

Nope and nope

christiangirl · #3 12-28-2009, 03:44 AM

Yes and yes.

1. It was a guy I'd agreed to meet off PoF. He really creeped me out, IDK why I said agreed to meet him. I tried to force myself to go, just to get out but I couldn't shake the bad vibes. I went with my gut and just didn't go. I apologized, made some excuse about internship running late and squirmed out of setting another date. I'm not sorry, I should have never agreed in the first place, he was too creepy.

2. Sadie Hawkin's Dance. High school. Don't wanna discuss but it was def a 17yo's nightmare.

UofISigKap · #4 12-28-2009, 11:24 AM

No and no, but I have had a guy tell me, "please still be here when I get back," when he got up to use the facilities. Maybe I should have left...

xxstardust · #5 12-28-2009, 12:11 PM

I've never stood anyone up, but I was stood up once. A friend of mine had a sweet 16 where you could bring a +1 (I know, that's very strange!) and it was made clear that most people were bringing dates. I wasn't seeing anyone and my guy friends were all busy, so my best friend set me up on a blind date with a friend of hers from her youth group. He never showed so I was the only one alone at my table ... again, a 17 year old's nightmare!

WVU alpha phi · #6 12-28-2009, 12:53 PM

No and no, thank God.

tld221 · #7 12-28-2009, 01:57 PM

I've never stood anyone up (that I recall) but I was stood up mid-date. Again, another one of those 17-year-old horror stories.

A friend of mine hooked me up with a friend of her boyfriend's (as the story tends to go in HS...and in life). We talked on the phone, everything was cool. We decide to meet at a local pizza shop for lunch (this was in the summer).

He rides up on his bike, after I waited for 20 minutes. We talk for 10 minutes, we order pizza and fruit punch and talk some more while we wait. Then he sees this girl he knows. They start talking, laughing etc. They step outside so he can watch his bike.

By then, the pizza's done, I've already eaten and am ready to go. I leave the pizza shop and he's nowhere to be found! I walk to the bus stop to go home and he's posted up on his bike still talking to this chick! I say to him, "so well talk soon...?" He just kinda half-nodded.

Senusret I · #8 12-28-2009, 02:15 PM

No and yes.

Every 26 year old's nightmare.

KSUViolet06 · #9 12-28-2009, 02:32 PM

I've never stood anyone up.

I have been stood up. He called me later and said he had food poisoning. Riiight.

CutiePie2000 · #10 12-28-2009, 02:57 PM

No and Yes (twice).

The first time was in Australia. We had had Date #1 and I was feeling a bit ambivalent about Date #2. He never showed and never returned my calls. I like to say that he didn't show up and didn't call back as he was dead (terrible, I know). The second time was in Calgary for a Lavalife date. I didn't even bother to call him to ask where he was. I waited 45 minutes and then left (feeling very stupid, I might add). Oh well, live and learn.

dreamseeker · #11 12-28-2009, 06:29 PM

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Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

I've never stood anyone up.

I have been stood up. He called me later and said he had food poisoning. Riiight.

were there circumstances that made u feel that it was a lie?

AGDee · #12 12-28-2009, 09:01 PM

I've never stood anybody else.

I was stood up once.. an online personals ad thing. I think he was married, honestly.

christiangirl · #13 12-29-2009, 05:20 AM

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Originally Posted by Jen

Best guy friend. He hadn't been in town for my birthday and months later arranged to take me out to celebrate, kept telling me how awesome a time we'd have.

Ugh. I forgot that one. I called my best guy friend from college (with whom I'd been "secretly in love" for 2 years), told him I was coming back to town for my birthday. I was having a thing a Dave and Buster's with some friends and asked him to come. He promised to be there, told me what a blast we would have, he really wanted it to be a special night for me. I decided I'd finally tell him how I felt when I saw him...which didn't happen because that required him to be there. Three days later as I was leaving town, he texted me about helping his friend move, totally unconcerned. He hadn't remembered at all.

My birthday was in August. I didn't speak to him again till almost November. He cornered me on Facebook chat to ask "Are you okay?" (idiot) and all I could say was, "No, it's fine. Why should you show up and keep your promises, it's not like you're my boyfriend or anything. You're not exactly the Ron to my Hermione." After a couple more weeks, I finally wasn't mad anymore and I just told him everything. We're cool now, but I'm glad to say he was sufficiently remorseful.

APhiAnna · #14 12-29-2009, 02:22 PM

Never been stood-up. Stood up somebody accidentally mid-date...I still cringe when I think of what an un-intentional beyatch I was! Story involves alcohol and general debauchery, so skip if it offends you.

I was invited to a fraternity invite by a guy I considered just a friend (although a very fun friend). We pre-gamed at his apartment with all his friends, went to the chapter house and then boarded the bus to take us to the venue.

The venue, when we got there, would not let in anybody under 21. The social chair had not planned this event AT ALL! He was one of those guys who is the king of any party he goes to, but is terrible at the details. In addition, one of the guys had thrown up on the bus and so the buses were not taking us back. Nobody wanted to go into the venue if only a few of us would even be able to enter. We eventually rented a "party taxi" (aka large taxi with Christmas lights and a Rihanna CD) for me and my date (and all his friends) to go back to a local bar.

So we get to the local bar and I'm there for about an hour, but there was some drama with a pledge talking about deactivating because of the event and my date was on their exec at the time. He was dealing with it the whole time (as he should have been) and I was really bored and pretty tipsy. Since the venue was changed, the event read "post-game" in my mind. I had no issues telling him I was going to go and told him thanks for the great night.

It wasn't until the next morning (and a phone call from a friend of his asking if I had had a good time) that I realized the "second venue" was really just a substitute for the first and that I had totally ditched my date!! I still get embarrassed about this...we went to other things together after that and always had a blast, but I still cringe when I think of how it was probably perceived at the time.

RU OX Alum · #15 12-30-2009, 04:24 PM

No and yes. A few times. Because I'm a dumbass.