I cant believe it...

[prettyladie]

Hello ladies of Alpha Kappa Alpha, Inc. I am just a sisterfriend, and I believe I've introduced myself before on another thread when I first joined greekchat, but if not hello =) I had to post this as soon as I heard this. Well my friend goes to a relatively large university in Texas and she has expressed her interest in wanting to be in a sorority. So, I listen to her and it's a good conversation but now the things she says recently makes me question her intentions, but I don't say anything. Well, tonight, I told her some information about Alpha Kappa Alpha, as in she needs to be reading through the national website, and knowing the history, keeping up her grades, community service etc, information she could have easily figured out on her own, but I still tried to help her out. She busts out " I want pearls lol" (we're texting, hence the lol) I said ummmmmm thats HORRIBLE if thats your main reason of wanting to be in Alpha Kappa Alpha. She had a delayed text, but then she responds, "Noooo I mean period. Not AKA." I was bafffffled. I know she knew I was upset by this, that's why it took her so long to respond, but I didn't write her back. I just don't know what to say to that. When she first expressed her interest towards me, I was like well great. I thought she had maybe seen members of Alpha Kappa Alpha around campus and that's what first sparked her interest and just didn't know how to go about it. But now she has turned into, "I'ma start my own sorority if they dont wan't me", "I wanna jacket" type of person. I don't know how to react towards her because she is, well was one of my best friends, and I say "was" for other reasons than this. I guess I just needed to vent. Sorry. =)

[AKA_Monet]

Originally Posted by prettyladie

Hello ladies of Alpha Kappa Alpha, Inc. I am just a sisterfriend, and I believe I've introduced myself before on another thread when I first joined greekchat, but if not hello =) I had to post this as soon as I heard this. Well my friend goes to a relatively large university in Texas and she has expressed her interest in wanting to be in a sorority. So, I listen to her and it's a good conversation but now the things she says recently makes me question her intentions, but I don't say anything. Well, tonight, I told her some information about Alpha Kappa Alpha, as in she needs to be reading through the national website, and knowing the history, keeping up her grades, community service etc, information she could have easily figured out on her own, but I still tried to help her out. She busts out " I want pearls lol" (we're texting, hence the lol) I said ummmmmm thats HORRIBLE if thats your main reason of wanting to be in Alpha Kappa Alpha. She had a delayed text, but then she responds, "Noooo I mean period. Not AKA." I was bafffffled. I know she knew I was upset by this, that's why it took her so long to respond, but I didn't write her back. I just don't know what to say to that. When she first expressed her interest towards me, I was like well great. I thought she had maybe seen members of Alpha Kappa Alpha around campus and that's what first sparked her interest and just didn't know how to go about it. But now she has turned into, "I'ma start my own sorority if they dont wan't me", "I wanna jacket" type of person. I don't know how to react towards her because she is, well was one of my best friends, and I say "was" for other reasons than this. I guess I just needed to vent. Sorry. =)

QPF

Prettyladie,

I could let this drone out and have everyone respond, but allow me to set the record straight: "VENTING" online in an unsecured public messageboard is unwise, especially when the conversation is regarding membership, specifically that in my Sorority, Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Inc.

First, I am consciously breaking the GC AKA Ave. Pearls of Wisdom Rules so that everyone on GC will understand my perspective--not my opinion, but my 20 years of membership in my Sorority. Allow me to put it to you like this:

Firstly, no one knows your friend and she cannot defend her statements here. Moreover, we do not know what your text message says, nor do we care.

If your friend or yourself are doing what you are supposed to be doing, i.e. research, then discretion would dictate that any inconsistencies as to the true meaning of membership into my Sorority is a GIFT! One that is WORTHWHILE UNTIL OUR LOCKS ARE GREY!

That is our legacy and we thank our service for that. This is about boundless love... Either you have it, or you don't.

Now, do you go and tell your "friend" this? No, but as her "friend" and "interested sister" you would want to go collectively with others and convince her that it is unwise to text any comments about AKA. That any comments, disparaging or not, can and will be used as grounds for membership or regret...

Basically, when text, email or any other online forum anywhere DO NOT have AKA and membership in the same sentence, which can come back to haunt you or infringe upon your membership prospects in ANY way!

Believe me, my Sorors are very astute and eager to find ANY reason for not extending an invitation to membership! And in fact, papers will be brought up at the time of review... This is NOT a joke. I've seen it, I have had to comply with it, it hurts... But these are the standards and the rules.

NO ONE will tell you this because we have a "gag order". All we have is our eyes, investigation skills, and our smiles... We protect our Sorority at all times.

Then, how sisterly is it of you to talk about your "friend" this way? To put it BLUNTLY, loose lips sink ships... I would not want you as my Soror if you are going to talk about me in this way! That is a negative reflection of you. We are NOT a support group. There is no therapy here. If you want that, I have a place for that. But, discussing you path toward membership into anyone's sorority on a public messageboard when you are not a member is just unwise...

Please STOP!

I am unavailable for PM about this issue.

I will be locking this thread.