how to stand out

swtlilsoni · #1 02-08-2009, 09:00 PM

I know there are many topics on advice for RUSH such as what not to say etc.
But I have heard that there are tons of sweet, fun, smart, cute, etc girls and after a while they all become a big blur.
My question is, how can a girl stand out among so many others that are just as appealing? Even if a girl's personality is great, there's going to be soo many others too so what can give that extra spark..that extra kick that makes a girl remembered and wanted above the rest?
For those of you that have done recruitment before, what has made a girl stand out to you before?

I mean obviously people are going to say that its important to be yourself, have a connection, be fun, look interested, etc and all that is very important. But since theres going to be so many people like that I'm wondering if theres anything else that adds to that and distinguishes a girl from the rest ..

Thanks!

APhiAnna · #2 02-08-2009, 09:24 PM

Hey, first of all, you guys are totally going to flame me because I JUST posted this in her other thread, but I feel like it is way more applicable here so I am copying and pasting...flame away haha! Anyways, I think it is pretty good advice on how to stand out.

1) CONVERSATION. Not talked about nearly enough on this site, in my opinion. Yes you can have ten recs, a model's figure, a 4.5 GPA and a nomination for Australian of the Year (please tell me somebody gets that last reference!) but if you did not shine during conversation rounds sisters will be very reluctant to let you into their sisterhood. To me bad rush conversation means you only answered the questions they asked with Yes/No/One sentence answers, and there were awkward pauses. Average would be something like, you answered the questions fluidly but never got off the "What's your major", "Where do you come from" type questions, and great rush conversation would mean that you found a quick way to get off those questions to find similarities, or at least interesting topics for discussion, with your active.

2) Grades - Sounds like you had deferred recruitment. Were your grades in the toilet?

3) Appearance - Now, on GC people usually say "are you hygienic" or something like that, but I think I'll take it one step further. Do you know how look your best? Some women roll out of bed in a puked on sweatshirt and look like models, some can dress up in a $5,000 ballgown and look terrible...but 90% of women are in between, meaning they have MUCH more control over how they look than they think they do.

I think EVERY woman should take a trip to an upscale beauty salon once a year to talk to professionals to see the best hairstyle and make-up for their face that corresponds with the latest trends. Many women I know decide they want bangs when their face doesn't support it, decide they want XYZ color eyeshadow when it went out of style five years ago, etc. With a good (fake!) tan you can look stunning, with a terrible fake tan you can look like an oompa loompa. Some women, frankly, like Zooey Deschanel, look best pale! The point is get professional advice once a year and don't listen to your fashion hindered mother or friends...it can make a ridiculous difference.

4) Clothes - Same thing. Does what you are wearing, both the cuts and the colors, flatter you? For one, I've learned over the years I look incredible in in various shades of blue, teal, and green...put a red t-shirt on me and I want to cry. Know what looks good on you. Also, quite frankly, know that some women in some chapters may have been looking for a "pricetag" on the outfit...do you know how to go to Old Navy and leave the store looking like you spent $500 at LA's trendiest stores? Or did you look like you went to Old Navy and left the store looking like, well, you went to Old Navy? (Also you can spend a lot of money on Shopbop.com and still pick the wrong stuff and look terrible...it goes both ways).

5) Leadership and Activities - You were on campus for a semester right? Were you involved with anything? Sororities, in general, want "doers" and preferably "leaders". If you weren't very active in anything it may have looked like you were neither. Something to consider.

6) Did they hear about you? If it was deferred, you could have gone out and gotten wasted every night and acquired a bad rep. On the flip side, they may have seen 90% of the PNMs out and about on campus and heard about them by now, and you may have been part of that select few that didn't go to any parties, Greek Week, football game events...if they had already seen 90% of their PNMs out having fun (in a classy way!) they may gravitate towards those women.

7) Recs and legacies. Are they important on campus? You can't really do anything about legacies but really good recommendations can be crucial for many campuses...believe it or not, many of those campuses are outside the SEC.

Those are just some things to think about. The clothes and appearance ones are so long not because they are more important, but because they don't get talked about as much on GC.

#3 02-08-2009, 09:26 PM

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Originally Posted by swtlilsoni

I know there are many topics on advice for RUSH such as what not to say etc.
But I have heard that there are tons of sweet, fun, smart, cute, etc girls and after a while they all become a big blur.
My question is, how can a girl stand out among so many others that are just as appealing? Even if a girl's personality is great, there's going to be soo many others too so what can give that extra spark..that extra kick that makes a girl remembered and wanted above the rest?
For those of you that have done recruitment before, what has made a girl stand out to you before?

I mean obviously people are going to say that its important to be yourself, have a connection, be fun, look interested, etc and all that is very important. But since theres going to be so many people like that I'm wondering if theres anything else that adds to that and distinguishes a girl from the rest ..

Thanks!

How to stand out? How's about making an effort to leave your dorm room 3 hours early so that you can get to a rush party on the other side of campus on time, sore foot and all?

swtlilsoni · #4 02-08-2009, 09:51 PM

OTW,
dude I dont live on campus stop making assumptions about me

APhiAnna,
yeah youre right haha thanks

KSUViolet06 · #5 02-09-2009, 12:54 AM

Hey aren't you the girl who just made the post asking about how sororities decide on who gets a bid? Just saying.

beccaminister · #6 02-09-2009, 01:06 AM

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Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

Hey aren't you the girl who just made the post asking about how sororities decide on who gets a bid? Just saying.

Yes, and therefore the answer is:

Show up to all parties you are invited to.
Don't make excuses when you don't get what you want.

And finally,

seriously... you are the girl who hurt her foot and didn't go to a party at a "undesirable" group because of it. Don't worry about standing out, believe me, you already do.

KSUViolet06 · #7 02-09-2009, 01:13 AM

To be fair, this is a good question, and I think APhiAnna made a really great thread about what I think is extremely important in terms of recruitment:

http://greekchat.com/gcforums/showth...t=conversation

Conversation is VERY important.

You can be the total package on paper. You can have grades, be involved in tons of clubs and everything, but if you walk into the houses with the conversation skills of a wet mop, you are probably NOT going to get a bid.

Sorority members need to be able to see you as someone they can TALK to and be friends with before they can see you as part of their sorority.