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[NotSure27]

Okay, I am very new to this forum but I have been reading a lot about Sororities and rush etc. Everything I have read just makes me want to read more and know more about the different sororities. BUT I have many things that make me uneasy about the whole process. I feel like I am a little "old" (23) to rush formally or at least I think so, and I am married. Which I have been in contact with a friend of mine and they said there is a rule that no married person can rush. This is true? Is it just for that particular sorority or all of them? I did talk to a advisor and she had me fill out a COB form, but didn't really give me much information to that process. So being the curious person I am decided to email the sororities that are doing COB, and I haven't heard back and now I am afraid I have completely screwed up everything!

Another thing is that I am a senior, and formal rush has gone and passed. I could try Spring? or Just wait till next fall. See I switched my major and so even though I have the credit hours of a senior I am more like a sophmore with how many hours I still have left. Basically I have like 3 years left. I am also working, and I don't know how the houses would feel about that, since (at least right now) I am working during the day and taking classes at night.

This is something I have always wanted to try, I just feel like I have so many odds against me and I don't want to be disappointed by going through something and pretty much have NO chance of getting an invite even on the second day (which I feel would happen to me). I go to Oklahoma Univ. and they have a pretty good Greek Life there, and it has always interested me... So can anyone help? Anyone that has gone through rush at OU have some insider tips?

Thanks!

[KSUViolet06]

There is no rule against married women rushing, but to be honest, being a senior and being 23 is going to make it VERY difficult for you to get a bid at a school like OU. Sororities at schools like that tend to prefer the traditional freshman PNM.

You have nothing to lose by attending some spring recruitment events, but there are no guarantees that you'll end up getting a bid.

[Kansas City]

NotSure,
I'm not sure that anyone on this board can answer your questions or calm your fears without knowing anything about the Greek climate on your campus. Age, academic year and marital status can all be factors to not receiving a bid, especially on competitive campus but I also know of women in a similar situation who have received bids. If this is something you are interested in doing, continue to COB or consider formal recruitment next time it comes around.

Paging kstar!

[als463]

Without trying to sound "stupid"...I am from Pennsylvania and don't know much Oklahoma schools...I was wondering:

Does Oklahoma University mean "Oklahoma State University" or "University of Oklahoma"? I know that people have made the mistake of calling Penn State "Penn" when in all reality-Penn is Ivy League University "University of Pennsylvania"....

If anyone knows the answer to my question-please help me out here....

[NotSure27]

Originally Posted by als463

Without trying to sound "stupid"...I am from Pennsylvania and don't know much Oklahoma schools...I was wondering:

Does Oklahoma University mean "Oklahoma State University" or "University of Oklahoma"? I know that people have made the mistake of calling Penn State "Penn" when in all reality-Penn is Ivy League University "University of Pennsylvania"....

If anyone knows the answer to my question-please help me out here....

Oklahoma University is University of Oklahoma. Sorry for the confusion. Just didn't want to put OU and expect everyone to know I was talking abotu Oklahoma

[NotSure27]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

There is no rule against married women rushing, but to be honest, being a senior and being 23 is going to make it VERY difficult for you to get a bid at a school like OU. Sororities at schools like that tend to prefer the traditional freshman PNM.

You have nothing to lose by attending some spring recruitment events, but there are no guarantees that you'll end up getting a bid.

What is Spring Recruitment like? I know not all the houses take part in it, but how do you know if one is or isnt? Is Spring kinda like Fall just less formal? Does everyone get to know about Spring or is it word of mouth or you only get to know if you are close friends etc?

Originally Posted by NotSure27

What is Spring Recruitment like? I know not all the houses take part in it, but how do you know if one is or isnt? Is Spring kinda like Fall just less formal? Does everyone get to know about Spring or is it word of mouth or you only get to know if you are close friends etc?

Check with your Greek Life office for more information on Spring Recruitment. If Fall Recruitment just ended, you might not hear anything for a while.

Some campuses publicize informal rush. Some don't and you'll only find about it if you've got friends in those sororities. It really all depends.

[epchick]

Again i'll say it, I hate when people say "I'm a junior/senior, but I have ___ years left of school" It doesn't necessarily work like that--at least not in my sorority. We count from when you first entered school, and you can go 4 years (possibly 5 depending on the chapter). So since you are a senior, even though you might have 3 years left, you would NOT get those 3 years as a collegiate.

[fantASTic]

Originally Posted by epchick

Again i'll say it, I hate when people say "I'm a junior/senior, but I have ___ years left of school" It doesn't necessarily work like that--at least not in my sorority. We count from when you first entered school, and you can go 4 years (possibly 5 depending on the chapter). So since you are a senior, even though you might have 3 years left, you would NOT get those 3 years as a collegiate.

I disagree. It's worth saying because they don't know how every organization works. For AST, we have no collegiate alum, no fifth year alum, nothing. If you are a collegiate and a member, you are active. So for us it IS definitely worth knowing.

[violetpretty]

Originally Posted by epchick

Again i'll say it, I hate when people say "I'm a junior/senior, but I have ___ years left of school" It doesn't necessarily work like that--at least not in my sorority. We count from when you first entered school, and you can go 4 years (possibly 5 depending on the chapter). So since you are a senior, even though you might have 3 years left, you would NOT get those 3 years as a collegiate.

Different NPCs have different policies regarding whether a 5th year can remain active. I believe this would be a (Inter)National Policy rather than a chapter policy, but I could be mistaken.

My sorority allows 5th years the option to remain active or go alum. My chapter had a 5th year remain active and live in the house during her 5th year.

Other NPCs require 5th years to go alum.

I'm not sure if any NPCs require 5th years to remain active until graduation.

[epchick]

Originally Posted by violetpretty

Different NPCs have different policies regarding whether a 5th year can remain active. I believe this would be a (Inter)National Policy rather than a chapter policy, but I could be mistaken.

Ahh ok, good to know. I didn't know if other NPCs allowed 6th+ years (and according to fantASTic, AST does), but my understanding was my sorority doesn't.

I know we allow 5th year students as well, but after the 5th year you had to go alum even if you hadn't graduated yet.

[ASTalumna06]

Originally Posted by fantASTic

I disagree. It's worth saying because they don't know how every organization works. For AST, we have no collegiate alum, no fifth year alum, nothing. If you are a collegiate and a member, you are active. So for us it IS definitely worth knowing.

However... it is also good to note that if you do wish to enter into alumnae status, you have the option of doing so after you've either:

1.) Completed 4 years of school, or
2.) Been active in the sorority for at least 3 years

So even with this, I could see how chapters might be weary of initiating someone, thinking that they could essentially leave at any time that they wanted after they've finished 4 years of school. As for my chapter, we don't really care. If someone really wants to be part of the chapter, whether they're a freshman or not, and we really like them and would like for them to be part of the sorority, then we allow them to join.

Again, it all depends on where you go to school, and how each chapter views your situation.

[fantASTic]

Originally Posted by ASTalumna06

However... it is also good to note that if you do wish to enter into alumnae status, you have the option of doing so after you've either:

1.) Completed 4 years of school, or
2.) Been active in the sorority for at least 3 years

So even with this, I could see how chapters might be weary of initiating someone, thinking that they could essentially leave at any time that they wanted after they've finished 4 years of school. As for my chapter, we don't really care. If someone really wants to be part of the chapter, whether they're a freshman or not, and we really like them and would like for them to be part of the sorority, then we allow them to join.

Again, it all depends on where you go to school, and how each chapter views your situation.

Are you sure? I looked in the Collegiate Chapter Handbook and I believe it said that if you are a collegiate, you must be active and that AST has NO collegiate alum policy. But my CCH was from the early 1990s...so I could be out of date!

[ASTalumna06]

Originally Posted by fantASTic

Are you sure? I looked in the Collegiate Chapter Handbook and I believe it said that if you are a collegiate, you must be active and that AST has NO collegiate alum policy. But my CCH was from the early 1990s...so I could be out of date!

Ok, sorry... I accidentally put that you had to complete either one of those, but in reality, you have to do both. So you would have to complete 3 years in the chapter before you could be an alumna. But yes, we have people all the time who complete 3 years in the sorority, might have an extra semester or year of school left, and then can choose to go into collegiate alumnae status. I attended school for an extra semester (because I changed my major 3 times. haha), and I had the option, but I chose to stay active.

It's Standing Rule #10 in the Collegiate Constitution