Older women & younger men

Conskeeted19 · #1 12-03-2000, 11:48 PM

Sorors and Sista Friends,

I don't know if this has already been discussed on other threads, but I would like to know how do you feel about older women dating younger men.

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Conskeeted19 · #2 12-04-2000, 01:50 AM

The man that is trying to talk to me is 7 years younger than I am. I wonder when I am 37 and he's 30..............geesh. Will he still.....Oh, I don't know what my problem is. Nothing is for certain with anything or anybody. He is very intelligent and quite charming. He is also sort of playful. Which is not bad...it's-it's. Oh, I... gosh! He said something to me that just left my mouth hanging open. He said that my problem is that I have been dealing with oooooolder men for so long until they have drained all of the fun/youthfulness out of me. I thought,"the nerve of him." I wonder why is it that I can never just enjoy the "right now." I just.............
Am I confusing you?

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exquizit · #3 12-04-2000, 08:51 AM

There's NOTHING wrong with it!!! (He is legal isn't he?)lol

That may be just what you need to add a little spice in your life.

Maybe if you sit down and weigh the pros and cons of the situation you'll find that it's not as bad as it seems. If he's mature enough to handle adult conversation and situations then what's the harm in at least giving it a try? YOU ONLY LIVE ONCE GIRL, GO FOR IT!!!!

Ideal08 · #4 12-04-2000, 09:24 AM

I don't see anything wrong with it. A person's age isn't the issue as much as his/her life experiences and maturity. Many times, dating people who are different from you (education, age, social class, etc.) allows you to view things from a totally different perspective, many times pushing you outside of your comfort zone, and forcing you to grow. I think a lot of people's worries about dating men or women who are younger than them stem from the stigmatization (SAT word, yall!!) placed on the situation by society. I say do what's good for you, as long as he/she is legal!! Life is TOO short.

PositivelyAKA · #5 12-04-2000, 05:27 PM

as long as he is mature enough for you and responsible, then it shouldn't be a problem

Monique · #6 12-04-2000, 08:36 PM

welll..My boyfriend of 3 years is 2 years younger than me..At times YES it can be a problem..As long as u can handle the snikering and stupid remarks(it might be just us) and he is mature then there should be no problem

AKA2D '91 · #7 12-04-2000, 08:41 PM

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Originally posted by Monique:
well....At times YES it can be a problem..As long as u can handle the snikering and stupid remarks(it might be just us) and he is mature then there should be no problem

YEAH, But remember who are the one's who are doing the SNICKERING et.al., those are the ones 9 times out of 10 who DO NOT have a significant other!

Can we say...J-E-A-L-O-U-S-Y? H-A-T-E-R-S?

exquizit · #8 12-04-2000, 09:09 PM

LOL!

I agree! Most people that are lonley hate on happy couples anyway. My boyfriend and I are always hearing people saying.."They spend way too much time together", "the does too much this...She does too much that"

We just say that's the true sign of success no matter what it is. People tend to hate on what they're jealous of!

Convinced · #9 12-04-2000, 11:42 PM

I think that it is fine, as long as the two of you are compatible. I am usually attracted to guys who are younger than I am. The guy that I "spend time with"

is 23 (I'm 25). He's not mature enough (yet?) to be someone that I'd consider marrying, but he'll do for right now

Inquisitive · #10 12-05-2000, 05:22 PM

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Originally posted by Convinced:
I think that it is fine, as long as the two of you are compatible. I am usually attracted to guys who are younger than I am. The guy that I "spend time with" is 23 (I'm 25). He's not mature enough (yet?) to be someone that I'd consider marrying, but he'll do for right now

he'll do for now! LOL!!!!

The Original Ape · #11 12-05-2000, 07:02 PM

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Originally posted by Conskeeted19:
Sorors and Sista Friends,

I don't know if this has already been discussed on other threads, but I would like to know how do you feel about older women dating younger men.

When yall get done with that one, let's flip it! LIST YOUR AGE, THEN TELL WHAT IS THE OLDEST AGE FOR A MAN YOU WOULD DATE.

serenity_24 · #12 12-05-2000, 11:33 PM

My age: 24
The oldest I would date: 29

It gets scary beyond that point. Think about it, what does an old man want with a tender young thang like me

. If he's over 30, I feel like he can find someone closer to his age, and if he can't there must be something wrong with him.

[This message has been edited by serenity_24 (edited December 05, 2000).]

Conskeeted19 · #13 12-06-2000, 09:02 AM

I am 32. The oldest man that I have dated was 54. I've never dated anyone younger than me.

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Ideal08 · #14 12-06-2000, 10:26 AM

I'm 26. I don't think I could date someone older than 40. But who really knows. If he treats me right and sweeps me off my feet, it's all good. As long as he didn't make me feel young, it's cool.

jazbri · #15 12-06-2000, 11:10 AM

I agree - whatever floats your boat!

I've never dated someone younger than me or within 1-2 year range. I'm 28 and am dating someone that's 34. The greatest age gap for me so far. It's funny because I typically attract men that are about 4+ years older than me. I think the oldest I could date right now would be in his early 40's-any older than that and he'd be older than my parents! (I know we're ghetto fabulous!)