Any ASU Greek Girls Out There? Need Advice Please

AZMOM · #1 09-12-2007, 02:38 PM

Hi Ladies,
My dtgr. will be attending ASU next fall and is thinking about joining a Sorority. She's excited about the possibility and is already starting to do her homework by talking to family members who were Pi Phi and Theta members at Oklahoma University. I found this forum and thought I'd do my best to help her out by researching the different sororities at Arizona State. Could anyone be so kind as to give their own personal take on the Sororities @ ASU. I understand we all have different opinions and in the end my dtgr. will have to make her own decision if asked to join. It would be a great help to hear what others have to say who have already been there or are there now and what their experiences were/are like now. We're told each house is different. So please, if you don't mind, what's your own personal take good and bad(yes, there's always the good w/the bad)with each Sorority?
Thank-you for your time. Glad I found this forum and will direct my dtgr. to it a.s.a.p. to learn as much about Greek living as possible.
Sincerely,
AZ MOM

SWTXBelle · #2 09-12-2007, 02:46 PM

While yours is the most nicely-worded request I can recall, it is still a request for an individual opinion. I think I can speak for most GCers when I say we don't like to characterize sorority chapters - it is too easy to stereotype or to be biased. Plus, unless you are talking to a current collegian, the odds are that the opinion being offered is based on an analysis of members who aren't even there anymore. Things can change quickly in the Greek world - one or two great pledge classes can turn a chapter around.
So my advice is to have your daughter poke around here and especially read the stickies on the recruitment pages. If she visits the campus, she should try to meet some sorority members if possible. And above all else, she should try to keep an open mind as she goes through recruitment.
I hope she has the best of luck, and finds a wonderful sisterhood.

kstar · #3 09-12-2007, 02:49 PM

Not to nitpick, but it's the University of Oklahoma, not Oklahoma University.

Helicopter1 · #4 09-12-2007, 03:01 PM

Best to lurk, with an occasional 'thanks'.....and unless you're teflon, you'd better use the search function before asking a question. Some of'em get really hungry right before lunch.

I kid.

AZMOM · #5 09-12-2007, 03:04 PM

Thank-you for your kind words SWTXBelle. Being from the Midwest we were taught you always catch more "flies w/honey than vinegar." I appreciate you taking the time to reply but still would appreciate to hear from others and their own personal opinions. Being the wonderful age of 49, I do hope those who are now past the college age might have some wonderful stories to share to encourage those who are thinking of joining a Sorority as well as those still involved. It sometimes puts a smile on a womans face @ my age to relive a wonderful moment or time from yrs. ago that still makes us grin and at this state we need all we can get. (lol) My dtgr. is in the process of trying to locate sorority members on campus but being AZ has only 6% sorority membership they aren't as easy to find. She's still working on it. I totally agree w/you "open mind" through recruitment is the name of the game.
Again, thank-you and hopefully I'll hear from some great ASU Greeks out there......
Sincerely,
AZMOM

AlphaFrog · #6 09-12-2007, 03:08 PM

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Originally Posted by AZMOM

Thank-you for your kind words SWTXBelle. Being from the Midwest we were taught you always catch more "flies w/honey than vinegar." I appreciate you taking the time to reply but still would appreciate to hear from others and their own personal opinions. Being the wonderful age of 49, I do hope those who are now past the college age might have some wonderful stories to share to encourage those who are thinking of joining a Sorority as well as those still involved. It sometimes puts a smile on a womans face @ my age to relive a wonderful moment or time from yrs. ago that still makes us grin and at this state we need all we can get. (lol) My dtgr. is in the process of trying to locate sorority members on campus but being AZ has only 6% sorority membership they aren't as easy to find. She's still working on it. I totally agree w/you "open mind" through recruitment is the name of the game.
Again, thank-you and hopefully I'll hear from some great ASU Greeks out there......
Sincerely,
AZMOM

No matter how sweetly you ask it, you're still asking a big NO-NO question.

Please refrain from further pursuing this, no matter how nicely you ask.

AZMOM · #7 09-12-2007, 03:08 PM

Not to nitpick? Then how do you define nitpick darlin? I was born and raised in Oklahoma and we call it both. All my siblings graduated from there and they call it both. Go figure? We find more important things to nitpick over....
Thanks for the reply though.....

AZMOM · #8 09-12-2007, 03:12 PM

I like you Helicopter1 you obviously have a great sense of humor which I'm finding is a must on this forum.
Thanks for the heads-up, maybe lunch could be on me if it could lighten the mood around here. lol
Come on Ladies, let's by civil, shall we?

_Lisa_ · #9 09-12-2007, 03:13 PM

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Originally Posted by AZMOM

I totally agree w/you "open mind" through recruitment is the name of the game.

And the only way to do this is to refrain from asking what you've come here to ask. Surely you understand why everyone is so tactfully trying to move you away from this subject. Its in your best interest, for your daughter as well, that you don't keep insisting. The best advice anyone can give your daughter is found in the Sorority Recruitment forum.

AZMOM · #10 09-12-2007, 03:16 PM

AlphaFrog, strange response. Not sure where you're from but it's a very honest, sincere question. Why you responded the way you did is alarming to me. I'll just let it go at that.
Again, anyone from Arizona State if you even belong to this forum, I'd love to hear from you.
Thank-you.....

AlphaFrog · #11 09-12-2007, 03:19 PM

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Originally Posted by AZMOM

AlphaFrog, strange response. Not sure where you're from but it's a very honest, sincere question. Why you responded the way you did is alarming to me. I'll just let it go at that.
Again, anyone from Arizona State if you even belong to this forum, I'd love to hear from you.
Thank-you.....

Where I'm from makes no difference. I don't care how honest or sincere your question is...it's still inappropriate.
STOP ASKING.

AZMOM · #12 09-12-2007, 03:22 PM

Lisa,
As tactfully as I know how to ask this question. Why is there such fear in asking a simple question that girls here seem terrified in answering? Is it just this forum or this the way the Greeks live? Don't ask and don't answer? This is rather shocking to me....

kstar · #13 09-12-2007, 03:23 PM

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Originally Posted by AZMOM

Not to nitpick? Then how do you define nitpick darlin? I was born and raised in Oklahoma and we call it both. All my siblings graduated from there and they call it both. Go figure? We find more important things to nitpick over....
Thanks for the reply though.....

You're talking to a 4th generation Sooner, getting my 5th degree from the University of Oklahoma, who was also born and raised here, so you should know better than to call it Oklahoma University, unless you're from the sticks.

Also, you don't ask that question, which predisposes people to not be nice.

ps. Daughter has the g before the t, so to abbreviate it would be dgtr, not dtgr.

AZMOM · #14 09-12-2007, 03:27 PM

AlphaFrog, you don't define what is wrong or right in my life. I do find you rude and will no longer reply to you. I'd appreciate it if you would just move on. You have nothing of value to offer me or my dtgr. by barking out orders. Never ever tell a person what they should or shouldn't do. Very inappropriate! Go eat lunch....
Sincerely,
AZMOM

_Lisa_ · #15 09-12-2007, 03:30 PM

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Originally Posted by AZMOM

Lisa,
As tactfully as I know how to ask this question. Why is there such fear in asking a simple question that girls here seem terrified in answering? Is it just this forum or this the way the Greeks live? Don't ask and don't answer? This is rather shocking to me....

This has already been answered for you, not once, but twice:

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Originally Posted by SWTXBelle

I think I can speak for most GCers when I say we don't like to characterize sorority chapters - it is too easy to stereotype or to be biased. Plus, unless you are talking to a current collegian, the odds are that the opinion being offered is based on an analysis of members who aren't even there anymore. Things can change quickly in the Greek world - one or two great pledge classes can turn a chapter around.
So my advice is to have your daughter poke around here and especially read the stickies on the recruitment pages. If she visits the campus, she should try to meet some sorority members if possible. And above all else, she should try to keep an open mind as she goes through recruitment.

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Originally Posted by kstar

Also, you don't ask that question, which predisposes people to not be nice.

(I bolded what you should commit to memory, but the rest of each of the above quotes are just as important.)

Its about being polite & tactful-and not asking others to speak poorly of an organization's chapters.