GC Not fun anymore?

[ASUADPi]

So I’ve noticed that a lot less sisters are visiting GC and our forum in general. After much thought, I’ve come to the conclusion that GC is no longer “fun” for them, just like it’s not really “fun” for me anymore. This is why I don’t think it’s fun for us anymore…



1) Sisters aren’t really acting like sisters. I get that you don’t have to like everyone, but respecting them is crucial.

2) Sisters aren’t checking their PM’s. I have heard from too many sisters on GC that they have PM’d another sister that they need to discuss things with and the sister refuses to acknowledge or respond to their PM. Again, it goes back to respect.

3) Sisters are holding grudges. Again, respect. If I still wanted to hold a grudge I wouldn’t take any of the advice adpiucf or HBADPi have offered me. God knows, everyone knows I’ve had major and public disagreements with these sisters, but holding a grudge over a petty argument online is stupid of me to do. Adpiucf and I have basically come up with like a non-verbal agreement. We will respect what each other says and if we have a problem we talk about it via PM.
Both adpiucf and HBADPi have offered me great advice on area's in which I needed advice. I am forever grateful for their insights and suggestions. If I was still holding a grudge over a stupid and petty arguement I wouldn't have recognized or accepted their ideas. And that would be even stupidier of me.

4) People, in general, on GC are more interested in arguing with you, than “listening” to what you have to say. Do we all have to start saying “agree with me, disagree with me, but respect my opinion”? We shouldn’t have to, but we live in a world where a lot of people have the mentality of “me, me, me”. (And unfortunately I see this type of mentality occuring in my first graders, how sad is that?)

5) Is argueing really worth it? I totally get being passionate on what you believe. I'm a passionate person. But there is a line. You can be passionate but respectful. Too often I've noticed that people are getting passionate but not being respectful. I will totally admit that I've done that before, but I really try to be respectful. I know that's why GC isn't fun anymore, too many people (mostly non-ADPi's) aren't being respectful of others (and my) opinions.








I'm not asking anyone to agree with me. I'm not asking anyone to post. What I am asking is for my sisters to really take a "step back" and really look at how we are treating each other as sisters and how we are treating other GC members.

I also want to clarify that I have shown this entire post to a moderator and this moderator has "cleared" it.

For those sisters who would like to continue talking to other sisters in a more secure environment, I have started "threads" (so to speak) in the Yahoo group, alphadeltapigirls. If you aren't a member and would like to join, pm me.

[HBADPi]

Maybe I'm being naive but I feel that there has been less public bickering on the adpi forum recently than there has been in years past. Perhaps thats just because people are being more PC or not bringing up controversial topics but I also think part of the decline of activity also seems to be the fact that we have a lot of sisters dealing with big things in their lives (upcoming marriages, babies, moves, new jobs, etc) and their lives have moved on from GC.

Personally I'm not the type of person who enjoys holding grudges. I think ASUADPi brought up a good example of how we've had our issues in the past but we can still remain civil. But one of the problems I dealt with is when you have an issue with another member of GC, you confront them via PM, and you find yourself dealing with issue #2 that ASUADPi raised. By PMing a person you are being mature enough to not raise the personal issue in a public forum but you want the other person to acknowledge/address your feelings or thoughts. If the person chooses to ignore your PM and not be courteous enough to give you a reply, I agree with ASUADPi in that they are being disrespectful.

Quite honestly I also don’t post as much as I use to but that’s more due to the fact that I’ve got more going on in my personal life than I did before and I’m spending less time online.

[skerbow]

I too don't post as much as I once did. I simply am too busy. But i might be bach....muahahahahaaa!!!

[ASUADPi]

Originally Posted by HBADPi

Maybe I'm being naive but I feel that there has been less public bickering on the adpi forum recently than there has been in years past. Perhaps thats just because people are being more PC or not bringing up controversial topics but I also think part of the decline of activity also seems to be the fact that we have a lot of sisters dealing with big things in their lives (upcoming marriages, babies, moves, new jobs, etc) and their lives have moved on from GC.

Personally I'm not the type of person who enjoys holding grudges. I think ASUADPi brought up a good example of how we've had our issues in the past but we can still remain civil. But one of the problems I dealt with is when you have an issue with another member of GC, you confront them via PM, and you find yourself dealing with issue #2 that ASUADPi raised. By PMing a person you are being mature enough to not raise the personal issue in a public forum but you want the other person to acknowledge/address your feelings or thoughts. If the person chooses to ignore your PM and not be courteous enough to give you a reply, I agree with ASUADPi in that they are being disrespectful.

Quite honestly I also don’t post as much as I use to but that’s more due to the fact that I’ve got more going on in my personal life than I did before and I’m spending less time online.

I totally agree with your first paragragh. I have honestly seen more bickering and being disrespectful in the other forums.

You don't have to like everyone but sometimes it seems like some people assume you do. If that makes any sense at all. I blame my lack of making sense on my really long day (that ain't over yet) with first graders!

I think a good rule of thumb is if someone PM's you, especially a sister, than you should respond. Especially if they are wanting to discuss something with you or clarify something. Even if you don't agree with what they are saying you should give them the courtesy of a PM back. I got a PM from a sister recently and I didn't agree with what was being said. My first PM said so and that I would talk to a Mod about the situation to get their input and the second was saying that I felt like I was being "demanded" to do something instead of politely asked. The sister apologized and told me she didn't mean for me to take it that way.

Don't get me wrong, people will forget. Like I've been meaning to PM her back and say "it's all good" but I am seriously the biggest blonde. I get really spacey. As all people do at times. It just comes down to apologizing.

Eek gotta go get my kids from art!

[honeychile]

I've posted a response on our "other" site. I trust that I won't see it here.

[adpi*violet]

I think a lot of it is what HBADPi said about GreekChat ADPi members having huge things going on in their lives right now. I haven't been posting very much on GreekChat, or anywhere really, as I've been very very busy with grad school. We are also still trying to conceive, only now it is with medical help, so the visits to the doctor take up a lot of my time. I still read GC, but usually only post a reply when something resonates very very strongly with me.

[sdsuchelle]

I just haven't posted as much because none of the threads have interested me, and some people on here really piss me off with their condescending attitudes. Lammmmme.

[texas*princess]

I personally haven't been around much because I have had a lot of work-related travel. I would log in and make sure things were fine, but that's pretty much the extent of it.

I think it's possible that perhaps people have "grown out" of GC and therefore might not check PMs or even browse anymore.

[jwright25]

Originally Posted by texas*princess

I think it's possible that perhaps people have "grown out" of GC and therefore might not check PMs or even browse anymore.

For me, it comes and goes depending how busy I am. In the fall, during recruitment season when I am working with chapters a LOT, I don't have tons of time to spend on GC. Right now, when it is more quiet and work isn't so demanding, I have more time to browse.

I enjoy reading the "debates" on the other GC forums. I like it when people are passionate about their beliefs - even if they aren't the same as mine. So I like hearing different points of view. Especially if it is concerning something that I don't already have a strong opinion about. I do NOT like it however when threads get closed or deleted right when the discussion starts heating up. I understand about being nice and all, but just because one person gets his or her panties in a wad doesn't mean that the rest of us weren't getting something out of it....

[adpiucf]

I am just not that into GC anymore, so I post more sporadically. I enjoy recruitment season and offering tips to PNMs or reading their recruitment stories and wishing them well.

[ASUADPi]

I miss recruitment season. That is my favorite part of GC, reading the recruitment stories. I usually say "good luck" (to add my subscription to the thread) and then wait until the (hopefully) good news and congratulate them.