Soul-Mates

RHOyal-Silence · #1 03-05-2001, 09:00 PM

i was just listening to bilal's soul sista when i started thinking....

do you all believe that there is a person out there that is your soul mate?

do you have someone in your life that you believe that you are meant to be with even though circumstances right now have you apart from one another?

MIDWESTDIVA · #2 03-05-2001, 09:31 PM

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Originally posted by RHOyal-Silence:
do you all believe that there is a person out there that is your soul mate?

I'm inclined to say no. But that's only because I haven't met mine.

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amycat412 · #3 03-05-2001, 09:59 PM

absolutely believe in soul mates--but--

I believe there are different soul mates for different times in your life.

I believe a soul mate is not necessarily a lover, but someone who teaches you a profound lesson about yourself and life.

I believe a soul mate is someone whom, when you look into their eyes, you see yourself and your truths reflected back at you.

just my thoughts-
Amy

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aRHOgance · #4 03-06-2001, 03:29 PM

Wow amycat! That wsa deep! I love that song soul sista by Bilal. I do believe there is a soul mate designed just for you. Then again, I'm a hopeless romantic. My question then becomes: how will you know that that person IS in fact your soul mate? I met this guy who should me that I settle for any and all guys. He wined and dined me. We went to church together and parties together. He allowed me to see the REAL me. He boosted my self esteem and made me feel good and proud of who I am. We were friends all this time, even though I began to catch feelings for him. At any rate, I feel he served his purpose for me in my life at that time. One month later-he got married. I was a little angry to find out that all the time we spent together he was engaged. However, the things that he showed me and taught me about myslef and life, outweighed the little bit of anger that I harbored towards him.

Miss. Mocha · #5 03-08-2001, 04:23 PM

Amycat, I agree with you.

I have/had a soulmate who was just a friend. We used to tell each other that we were the same person, just different sexes.

If God had chosen me to be male, I know I would have been that person.

"Soulmate" can be a vibe that you have with a member of the opposite sex. Somebody who truly feels you, and accepts you the way you are.

Believe me, my husbands doesn't even do that all of the time.

Miss. Mocha

Proud Sister · #6 03-08-2001, 05:37 PM

I definitley believe in Soul Mates. It is someone that completes you or makes you feel whole and also vice versa. He or she is the cherry on your sundae. Hi Arhogance, liked you page on nupe.com. You Go Girl.

EspeRHO · #7 03-08-2001, 09:27 PM

Amycat, I agree with you one hundred percent. I feel that my husband to be is my soulmate, cause I feel his pain just like he feels mine, as well as his joy. He has taught me that I have more strength then I realized. I had given up on men when I meet him, but he turned my life around in a way that I never thought was possible. To me a soul mate is someone that when you look at each other, you know that deep in your heart that there is no other for you. I also agree that a person can have more than one soul mate, at different times in your life, each to teach you a different lesson about yourself and the world around you. I liked your topic RHOyal-Silence. Keep posting such great stuff.

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The Original Ape · #8 03-09-2001, 10:59 AM

I do.

Exquisite5 · #9 11-13-2001, 05:47 PM

Whew, am I glad I did I search because this thread clearly already exists.

Basically, I am going through some things and am redefining what I believe (in love as well as other aspects of my life)...

Just wondering: Do you believe that most married people have found their soulmate? Or, are they with someone they mate while waiting on their soulmate and just made things work with?

If you believe in soulmates, are we destined to meet our soulmate as long as we hold out? Or, could we wait and wait and never meet the soulmate, or never have it revealed that a certain someone is the soulmate?

Would you ever marry a friend (a la My Best Friend's Wedding pacts) just because you hadn't found your soulmate and had reached a certain age?

Is to do so wrong?

If one never finds his or her soulmate, and refuses to settle, is adoption okay without a mate to raise the child with? Is that selfish?

I'm just wondering...my life is love life is looking pretty hopeless right now and after med school...well, then I'll be like 30 and I would love to have kids....

MIDWESTDIVA · #10 11-13-2001, 08:51 PM

I still don't know if I believe in the concept of soul mates. I know of people that say they are with their soulmate, but why are there so many other people out there that aren't with theirs?

I don't believe most people marry their soulmates. In the conversations I've had with married men, most of whom have divorced, they say things like "I married her because I thought that was what she wanted", or "She was pregnant and I wanted to do the right thing" or "We were living together. People kept saying that I was using her, so I decided to marry her".

I would not marry a friend if I could not find a soulmate. I hate settling for less than what I really want. I want to marry someone that I am passionate about.

I think adoption is a wonderful idea, married or not. I hate that so many of "our" children get bounced from one foster home to the next and don't really get to experience family. I think it's very unselfish to take someone else's child and raise them as your own. I've given it some thought myself.

You're starting to depress me with this hopeless lovelife I'm not getting any younger stuff. I'm not getting any younger either.

Focus on what you have instead of what you don't. You will be so much happier.

Exquisite5 · #11 11-13-2001, 11:23 PM

Thanks for the words of encouragement! I'm actually pretty happy right now, just the prospect of the future can be daunting.

lil_sunshine · #12 11-21-2001, 07:38 PM

I believe in soulmates. I've even met mine when I went away to Howard U. in 1994. He and I were both freshmen at the time and we became very good friends. We still keep in touch, although there was a time when I wasn't able to b/c I didn't have his phone number, and he wasn't the type to write letters. When I found him over the 'net, I was overjoyed. I immediately e-mailed him and we've been in touch ever since. I now have his phone number so I can call him. We both know we want to be together , but the only thing stopping us is that he's in Philly, and I'm here in NYC. I think that if all goes well between him and I, I might attend law school in the area. The fact that he has 4 year old twin sons didn't scare me too much either, b/c I like kid a lot.

Well, that's my ray of sunshine for now. Until next time, people!!!

SeriousSigma22 · #13 11-24-2001, 11:49 PM

I do believe that everyone has a soul mate, however, sometimes we do things in life to mess up that bond or relationship. Sometimes we can be our own worst enemy.

Serioussigma22

PKTSU01 · #14 11-25-2001, 12:34 AM

I think it's definetly possible, and i think i've met mine, problem is, shes already engaged to someone else. We'll see just how real "fate" is.

SeriousSigma22 · #15 11-25-2001, 12:57 AM

Good luck to you PKTSU01!

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