approaching the lovely ladies of Zeta Phi Beta

[wannabez]

As some of you may already know I am very interesting in becoming a member of Zeta Phi Beta but i hear so many things about how you should approach a member.well, I would like someone to tell me the truth. what should I be asking her when I approach her?what should I be saying to her? what if i can't attend any programs because I'm always at work( this is not a scenrio this is true) could i still be considered for membership?I know 3 members of Zeta Phi Beta whom are good friends of mine if they wrote me recommendations would that really help me???some one please give me the real deal.