What to do?

quillogold · #1 04-19-2006, 09:33 PM

What did you/are you going to do with your fraternity/sorority stuff when you graduated? I'm moving in with my fiance who is a GDI and have a feeling that he's not going to let me display my stuff like I have for the past 4 years. What should I do with it all? I've got gazillions of t-shirts, plaques, picture frames, etc and obviously don't want to just throw it away....

valkyrie · #2 04-19-2006, 09:53 PM

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Originally posted by quillogold
and have a feeling that he's not going to let me display my stuff like I have for the past 4 years.

There are so many things wrong with this statement I don't know where to begin.

ShamikaT · #3 04-19-2006, 09:56 PM

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Originally posted by valkyrie
There are so many things wrong with this statement I don't know where to begin.

Amens.

quillogold · #4 04-19-2006, 10:05 PM

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Originally posted by valkyrie
There are so many things wrong with this statement I don't know where to begin.

well i just mean like i have Teddy Bears and composites and picture frames and everything AXiD EVERYWHERE. I live in my sorority house so it's just all Alpha Xi. I don't mean that he won't let me but I just know he won't want it everywhere in the apartment.

tld221 · #5 04-19-2006, 10:06 PM

key phrases:

he's your fiance.
he won't "let you"
past 4 years

check up on it.

ya relationship, that is. seriously.

quillogold · #6 04-19-2006, 10:08 PM

ok there's no need to judge my relationship. you don't even know me.

i just asked a simple question and would like a simple answer. is that too much to ask? i didn't come here to be judged.

Tippiechick · #7 04-19-2006, 10:10 PM

If you "let" him make decisions fot you as your fiance, do you seriously think it's going to be different when you are married? Wake up and smell the shitty relationship. No man should tell you what to do...

Grow some ova. Tell him how it's going to be or tell him to find someone else to be his idiot.

Oh, and if you put your relationship out there, it stands to reason that it will be judged.

SDTSarah · #8 04-19-2006, 10:10 PM

I'm getting a quilt made out of my old t-shirts, except for a few that I'm keeping for the gym, etc. Could you also give some stuff to your little sister? My chapter has an auction at the end of the year where seniors sell some of their stuff back to the younger members.

#9 04-19-2006, 10:16 PM

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My chapter has an auction at the end of the year where seniors sell some of their stuff back to the younger members.

My chapter did that as well.

Throughout the year, members earn "Alpha Gam Dollars" for every A or B they receive on a test/quiz, paper, etc...for turning in their dues and study sheets on time, etc.

At the end of the year, the VP Scholarship asks for donations for the auction. Usually she hits up the outgoing seniors and recent alums for stuff they don't want anymore.

PiKA2001 · #10 04-19-2006, 10:20 PM

I know where your coming from because I myself wouldn't want my apartment looking like a dorm room. I have my stuff boxed up, except two paddles. It was common in my house that when a guy moved out and graduated that he gave his things ( letters, shirts, flags) to the newer guys in the house. Kind of like passing down the batton if you will.

PiKA2001 · #11 04-19-2006, 10:25 PM

Tippie-

Just because some guy doesnt want to live in an AXiD museum doesn't mean he's some controlling asshole.

sdbeta1 · #12 04-19-2006, 10:28 PM

Select a few items to keep out, put the rest in a box, and rotate them throughout the year.

Tippiechick · #13 04-19-2006, 10:40 PM

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Originally posted by PiKA2001
Tippie-

Just because some guy doesnt want to live in an AXiD museum doesn't mean he's some controlling asshole.

No, but if he refuses to allow a major part of her life to a be a part of their new life together it sends up quite a few red flags.

My husband doesn't want to live in a dorm room. Neither do I. But, he does know that if he tried to throw out any of my composites, t-shirts, badge holder, badge, keepsakes from my Zeta days he'd find himself sleeping on the front lawn. And, I understand that I have to deal with his god-awful Gator things. It's called compromise.

bluefish81 · #14 04-19-2006, 10:46 PM

At the end of our senior year, we willed lots of our stuff to the younger members - so stuff that you'd accumulated (and received thru wills) over the years was often given away. I saved the few items that I wanted to keep - shirts that I want to make into a quilt, select other items, but gave away lots of my other things.

Rio_Kohitsuji · #15 04-19-2006, 10:56 PM

quillio- Okay, I understand what you're asking

My FI and I went through this issue a while ago, so we understand. Since we both had overall good relationships w/our respective chapters we still wanted to keep that connection yet we knew we didn't want our place to double as a dorm room. One thing we did is put our most important stuff (big/lil paddles, special pics) in a designated room, which in our case was the computer room. Our favorite pics went into nice subtle frames (you know, not the kind that have the giant XYZ letters on it, heh) that blended well w/our family pics. So, just mingle his pics w/yours!

Now, I have a ton-o-lambs from my time in my sorority. If you have a ton of the plush stuff I'd advise you to keep a handful and give the rest to the younger members!

Oh, and just get an album or two to keep the rest of your "college" pics, c'mon, you thought you were going to keep those high school pics forever, didn't you?