Should I go to the Wedding

annice22 · #1 12-30-2005, 09:13 PM

I am suppose to attend a wedding tomorrow for a good friend but I am really sick (fever, headache, coughing). I was wondering should I just attend anyway and just leave early or should I stay at home?

My mom thinks I should stay at home and not spread my germs around during the wedding and reception. I'm not sure what to do because this is one of sorority sister's whom was initated with me and she's one of good friends. I would hate to miss and have her mad at me but I also do not want to be coughing during the wedding.

Let me know what you think.

Thank you

Glitter650 · #2 12-30-2005, 09:26 PM

I say get lots of sleep the night before, take some dayQuil, some travel sized kleenex, cough drops, and hand sanitizer in your purse and attend the wedding. I think it will be worth it in the end, unless you are so sick there's no way you can imagine getting out of bed. If you really feel that you can't attend and don't want to spread germs, give your friend a call and just let her know the dilemma and that you are thinking of her.

honeychile · #3 12-30-2005, 09:28 PM

Frankly, if I were going to the wedding, I would rather you stayed home. There are too many times when you absolutely HAVE to go to something when you're sick; you have the luxury this time of not spreading your virus.

Look at it this way: do the bride & groom deserve to catch what you have as they start their honeymoon and life together?

alphaxikt · #4 12-30-2005, 09:44 PM

depending on how long you've been sick, you honestly aren't all that contagious after the first couple of days of a cold - if you've been sick for a few days, you might feel miserable, but you probably won't pass it on as long as you're considerate and careful.

wrigley · #5 12-30-2005, 10:49 PM

If you feel like you can be a poster girl for a Nyquil commerical, you should stay home. Give yourself the gift of time and let yourself rest up from this virus.

Most likely the bride will appreciate it if you tell her as soon as possible that you won't be there. Don't wait until tomorrow. She'll be stressed enough as it is. When you send her a gift, if you haven't already, write a note as well so that way she remembers why you weren't there and that you were thinking of the her on her special day.

Part of being a good guest means showing up healthy and not spreading germs to others.

Buttonz · #6 12-31-2005, 12:55 AM

I think if you've had the cold for a few days, and your not feeling "ugh I can't even get out of bed" sick, you should go.

If you decide not to though, call her and explain why, I'm sure she will understand.

phisigduchesscv · #7 12-31-2005, 01:13 AM

Annice,

What i've been told is that as long I have a fever I am still contagious and will spread it. If you have a fever you should probably stay home. Call and leave a message for the sister letting her know what has happened, she will understand. Also for friends who had big weddings I've often heard that they couldn't tell you who attended or not because everything is a blur.

Again, call and leave a message for the sister. Plus call a couple other sisters you know are going and ask if they can come get your present to bring to the reception with them.

Hope you feel better soon,
LITP,
Carolyn

annice22 · #8 01-01-2006, 12:00 PM

The night before I took medicine, used a humidifier, went to sleep early and felt a lot better Saturday. My fever was normal (I was very happy for that).

I attended both the wedding and reception. I'm so glad I did because some of the "sisters" flaked on the wedding. She was very happy that the sisters who did attend. She even had our sorority song requested for the reception and we took a group picture. I would have felt so guilty if I did not show up.

Thank you for the advice. (I hate to admit I guess I should listen to my mom

).

AchtungBaby80 · #9 01-01-2006, 02:37 PM

I think you did the right thing.

Tom Earp · #10 01-01-2006, 02:59 PM

annice22, Outstanding Choice.

I am sure Your Sister, The Bride, was extemely happy that You were there for Her.

This is I am sure, a story that will go down in Your History and will be told many times over!

Buttonz · #11 01-01-2006, 03:19 PM

I'm glad that you went and had a good time. It stinks that some of the sisters didn't show up.

I found out from a sister of mine who is getting married SUmmer 2007 she isn't inviting every sister from her time period, which stinks, because there is someone who disaffilated who still invited every sister (she disaffialted for relgious reasons.) but the logic she is using is her husband-to-be isn't inviting all of his frat bros....