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Tricky sorority-side rush question
Hey all...I've found myself in somewhat of a sticky situation, and I was hoping you could offer up some advice.
I'm the VP Recruitment for my chapter, and I've been setting up rush pairs this summer. Because our chapter is large, not everyone gets to rush every round...but there's this one girl I'm reluctant to let rush at all.
This girl, while a really nice person with a great personality, is in all probability suffering from an eating disorder. She is extremely extremely skinny. While we are trying to give her the support she needs and help her get healthier...while her well-being is obviously the top concern, at the same time I'm nervous about the impression she'll give off during rush. Appearances aside, she'd be a great rusher, but I'm afraid she'll make the potential new members uncomfortable. Also, as much as it sucks to admit it, rush is often a very superficial process. It just takes one PNM commenting to her friends about the super-skinny girl in such-and-such chapter, and boom, we're the anorexic house. It doesn't help that such a rumor feeds into one of the more commonplace stereotypes about sorority women in general.
At this point, I'm leaning towards letting her know ahead of time that she won't be rushing anyone and having her help out in the kitchen or something (where there will be about 15 other people, so at least she won't be alone). I would LOVE to be able to let her rush...but at the same time, I can't pretend like every PNM will take the high road and not judge her, and the house by extension, based on her appearance.
Any advice anyone has would be great. None of the recent VPRs have dealt with anything like this issue, so I'm kind of making this up as I go along.
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