Strip Clubs vs Girlfriends

Rio_Kohitsuji · #1 12-18-2002, 06:56 PM

I'm just curious on your take on your men going to strip clubs and all.

See, my guy went a few weeks ago w/his brother for his birthday, I didn't care yet when I told some of my buds where he was going, they blew up!! I kinda thought it was funny that they actually thought it was a big deal that my boyfriend went to a club and I didn't care...*shrugs*

So ladies, what's your take on it?

#2 12-18-2002, 07:42 PM

I remember it was a big deal for me when my ex BF used to go out on his South Pacific patrols. Everytime they docked in Guam they'd head over to the G-Spot...the only strip club in town. I had a major cow until I found out that the dancers there looked like cows. One of the Coastie wives went there and reported back to us that the guys just went there because of the cheap drinks. Most of the girls there weren't even worthy to be touched with a ten foot pole.

I didn't really have a problem with it after that. I think that most establishments have a 'no touching' policy, so I'm okay with that and I'd trust him if he went. As long as he's not paying $$$ for a lap dance, I'm okay with it. I've been to a few strip clubs myself so I kinda know what goes on...and I had a great time!

MooseGirl · #3 12-18-2002, 09:01 PM

I've never had a problem with it....they may look, but who're they comin back to?

I've been to strip clubs a couple times...once with my ex and a bunch of his fraternity brothers, and once on MY birthday (with him and a couple friends). My bf at the time even bought me a boobie shot.
I've yet to go to a male club though...I'm not really interested in going to any sort of club nowadays...

Anyway, the point is it really is just entertainment for him, if you don't like it, ask him to rent a porn he can watch at home

(or suggest that to your friends who were so appalled!)

Dionysus · #4 12-18-2002, 09:04 PM

Sure...as long as I can come.

bcdphie · #5 12-18-2002, 09:26 PM

I have never had a problem with it - hell I like to go and see the shows myself sometimes. And of course on the other end of things, my boyfirend has no quams about me going to Ladies' Night.

aedea42 · #6 12-18-2002, 09:40 PM

I have absolutely no problem with it... most strip clubs have a no touching policy and and if he wants to drop his money on naked chicks that's all good... cuz in the end he's coming home to me... my friends all think I'm ridiculous because it doesn't bother me... but I don't see why it should...

EGDeepher · #7 12-18-2002, 09:48 PM

I agree, I have no problems with my bf going to a strip club because as the ladies on the board already mentioned he's coming home to me! If you have confidence and trust in your relationship things like that shouldn't bother you.

OUlioness01 · #8 12-18-2002, 10:08 PM

it's cool with me if my hypothetical boyfriend goes to a strip club. i have a lot of good friends who are male, and it seems like a lt of their bonding goes on there.

astroAPhi · #9 12-18-2002, 10:23 PM

If he was ditching me to go to strip clubs, then I might get crabby. Or if he was just going by himself I might think he was weird or an alcoholic... but if he's going with a bunch of guys I don't worry. He's probably there to get them out of trouble anyway, lol.

valkyrie · #10 12-18-2002, 11:06 PM

I have a question for those who have said that they don't care because "he is coming home to me." Would you also say that you don't care if he has an affair, because after he's done, he's coming home to you?

I'm not saying that I have a problem with strip clubs; I'm just trying to understand this statement.

winnieb · #11 12-18-2002, 11:33 PM

I don't have a problem with it-- I have a few friends that will argue how horrible it is that men would go to such a place. It is wrong in their opinion--so is Hooters, according to them. I could care less....it is just entertainment!!!

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I have a question for those who have said that they don't care because "he is coming home to me." Would you also say that you don't care if he has an affair, because after he's done, he's coming home to you?

I'm not saying that I have a problem with strip clubs; I'm just trying to understand this statement.

There is a huge difference between going to a strip club and having an affair. I think I would sum up the "he's coming home to me" statement with ----
I don't care where you get your appetite--as long as you eat at home!!!!

-wendi

justhey76 · #12 12-18-2002, 11:38 PM

I have never really cared if ol'boy goes to a strip club. Strippers are taught to appear availible, but never be availible. IF I didnt trust him, I would rather him go to a strip club than to a party. I know he can't get into any real trouble there because chances are slim that he could actually pick one up, where, if he goes to a party, there is always some f#$king slut who WOULD be availble. Besides, I can't get mad at him for doing anything I would/have done.

chideltjen · #13 12-19-2002, 12:16 AM

my ex used to go all the time. it was a fraternity bid night "tradition" to go take the new boys to Centerfolds. I could have cared less... until he told me that he once hung out with a stripper all night after the club had closed (before we were together...)

yeah... glad he is my ex.

phimugirlie01 · #14 12-19-2002, 12:22 AM

I wouldn't have a problem with it. I wouldn't jump up and down and be all happy about it, but I wouldn't get mad if he went to a strip club.

Same thing with watching porn. My friend Leslie's older brother got into a fight with his gf cuz he watches porn sometimes. Um, ok, to me thats a guy thing. I wouldn't get mad about that either.

Rudey · #15 12-19-2002, 12:34 AM

Yeah..."no touching policy".

-Rudey
--Hahahahahahahahaha!