Why you hatin??

DELTAQTE · #1 11-14-2001, 09:07 PM

Has anybody had a "hatin" expierence? Or am I the only one that thinks that HATIN is alive and well in 2001.

This is my "hatin" expierence

I have about a billion black male friends who date non-black women. I don't hate on them(ok I used to but hey this is about me right now

)

Everybody knows I want to marry a black man, but recently I started dating a delicious

looking man who is spanish/italian. Well we went out for the first time to the movies and not ONLY did I see a lot of my black male friends(this is a popular hangout spot) but they proceeded to whisper to me "What you doin with HIM?", "girl you know you ought to be shamed", etc. And one of my friends had a white girl on his arm when he said it

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I know someone has a "at the club hatin" story, lol!

"And that my friends is what I call a hatin situation!"
Heavy D

The Original Ape · #2 11-15-2001, 02:28 PM

Hey; it's your life. If he makes you happy, so be it. Good luck.

PrettyKitty · #3 11-15-2001, 02:35 PM

Pulhease Sistah Gurl, DO YOU! Forget about what other people think! As long as he treats you right and you like him that's all that matters

lovelyivy84 · #4 11-15-2001, 02:45 PM

I have gone through similar stuff so I feel you

BUT

could it have been that they had that reaction because they know about your previous position on interracial dating? Could they have been thinking that you were reneging on all you had said before and that they were going to take the opportunity to get you back for things you had said in the past?

Not saying that they weren't HATIN, just thinking maybe they felt they had a reason.

DELTAQTE · #5 11-15-2001, 03:33 PM

We never argued about them doing it. It was WHY they were dating non-black women. You know the usual thing we hear, we are too loud, too ghetto, etc. That was why my mouth dropped when they were telling me I wasn't right.

so am I the only one that thinks Hatin is alive and well in 2001? PrettyKitty I know you get hated when we are on BP together

QTE

ClassyLady · #6 11-15-2001, 06:31 PM

No, hatin is alive and well in 2001 and will probably be even more so in 2002

Your friends probably acted like that because that was the first time that they had to experience what many black women feel. Seeing an eligible, attractive, intelligent, member of the opposite sex dating someone who is not African-American. Don't sweat it in the least. Keep on with you Mr. Right (or Right Now, that's totally up to you). Your friends will get over it.

PrettyKitty · #7 11-16-2001, 11:16 AM

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Originally posted by DELTAQTE

so am I the only one that thinks Hatin is alive and well in 2001? PrettyKitty I know you get hated when we are on BP together

QTE

ROTFLMBAO...Shake the Hatas off Miss PGU! I have absolutely NO TIME for small minded people!

lil_sunshine · #8 11-19-2001, 08:27 PM

Last year, I visited my ex and his family and his baby mama was staying there temporarily. She's not that cute and her body looks like she could play for the NFL. She's shorter than me and she has huge boobies that make her back hunch over. I had a slight feeling that she couldn't stand me and she proved my suspicion right when I came there in my khakis, dress boots, and my blue DKNY shirt with the 3/4 sleeves looking like the cutie that I am naturally. I looked at her and she had on my ex's basketball jersey and shorts (she hadn't gotten dressed for the day yet; those were her pajamas for the previous night). His little sister asked me to comb out my wrap so she could see how long my hair was and I happily obliged. You know BM was fit to be tied and she had to try and compete for his attention (he was staring kinda hard at my cute self) and she put on her black tight dress pants, with a burgandy sweater and dress shoes (she didn't have n e other dress clothes b/c the rest of her stuff was still upstate in her old apt.) and she also had on some dark brown lipstick. Now you tell me if girlie was hatin' or not. It ended up that my ex and I went to hang out and she went somewhere else. When I got home, this girlie (she's 28 now and acts like she's in HS) called my house and had the nerve to ask me if I still had feelings for him, if he kissed me, what the deal was btwn me and him, and wanted to know what we did. Talk about a psycho who needs some serious help. As a result, I don't keep in contact with any of his family and I'm happy with my life right now. I'm a full time student, I know what direction I want my life to take. So there's no reason for me to hate on anyone, but they can spend all of their free time hatin' on me, which shows me that I have their attention.

Aislynn · #9 11-28-2001, 12:38 PM

lil_sunshine-
why were you visiting your ex and his family? especially when you knew he had a new girlfriend? i think that is so triflin'!!! hence the word EX!!! i'd have an attitude with you too, you are and EX for a reason!!!

MaMaBuddha · #10 11-28-2001, 02:33 PM

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Originally posted by Aislynn
lil_sunshine-
why were you visiting your ex and his family? especially when you knew he had a new girlfriend? i think that is so triflin'!!! hence the word EX!!! i'd have an attitude with you too, you are and EX for a reason!!!

i smell hate in the air!!

*sniff* *sniff*

lil_sunshine · #11 11-28-2001, 03:53 PM

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Originally posted by Aislynn
lil_sunshine-
why were you visiting your ex and his family? especially when you knew he had a new girlfriend? i think that is so triflin'!!! hence the word EX!!! i'd have an attitude with you too, you are and EX for a reason!!!

Actually, he and I were good friends before and after we were together and he asked me to come over. I used to always visit them and she knew that before she had to stay with him. And to clarify, she wasn't his gf then. She even told me that. If she lied about being with him, then fine, but SHE was the one who said it, not him. If she had a problem with me being there then, she should've come to me as a woman and told me how she felt. POINT BLANK!!!

Aislynn · #12 11-28-2001, 04:12 PM

I smell it too MaMaBuddha.....

Sunshine,
You were still sniffin' around you ex man. I think it's triflin'. Did you ever consider his baby mama's feelings? I doubt it. Do you realize how vulnerable some women feel, especially after they have had a baby? And what kind of man invites his ex over to the house when the baby's mother is living there? Better yet, what type of woman accepts the invitation? I don't condone her calling your house either. Personally, from what I read in your post both of you are silly little girls. I bet his head got so big from seeing you with your khakis, dress boots, and blue DKNY shirt with the 3/4 sleeves and her black tight dress pants, with a burgandy sweater and dress shoes . Did you ever stop top think that he did this on purpose? Did you every think that he was using you to stroke his ego. Men do it every day to silly little girls who let them.You sure paid a lot of attention to what she was wearing that day. Who was hatin' on who? Thats all I have to say about this, feel respond as much as you like, this is just my opinion. POINT BLANK. Take care.

lil_sunshine · #13 11-28-2001, 04:42 PM

Well, you are completely entitled to your opinion, Aislynn, and I respect it. Why would I hate on her when I know I look better than she does? Maybe I used to be silly, but I've totally outgrown that phase of my life and continued doing me! I can't help it if she has a low self esteem. I used to have one, but I got older and realized that it was just a waste of my time to worry about what other people thought, especially if their opinions didn't help me to blaze my own trail. I follow God's and my own lead, and as long as I take it one day at a time, I'll be okay.

chickenlittle · #14 11-28-2001, 05:07 PM

I thought this spread was about hatin????

Now, back to the subject at hand. This was getting good.

Sunshine you DA BOMB! Just ALL OF THAT!

Aislynn you have a point. But, not in this case, according to Sunshine

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Yall chill! Be cool

I like to keep the peace. This back and forth is silly on both ends. I hope yall know each other. Cause if not, IT'S REALLY SILLY!

More Hatin Stories Please. I was having fun reading these at work.

Kimmie1913 · #15 11-28-2001, 05:14 PM

Personally, I don't think there is something automatically wrong with staying friends with an ex, even one who has moved on to the next. Some people make better friends than lovers. I know many people who have ex's who are still their friend and have even become friends with their new significant other. This only works when all of the people involved are adult enough and good enough people not to be trifflin or shady and can handle it. Sometimes that depends on how the relationship ended as well.

Lil sunshine, I don't think it is about who looks better than who or who has the cuter clothers, etc. If you and him were friends and he invited you over I don't see a reason for you not to go. If he had his BM staying there and she was going to be uncomfortable that is on him to take into consideration. You don't know her-how would you know how she is going to react? That is his bad because that is disrespectful to her on his part. She needed to pull him up about it and not freak out at you. It would be different if you just poped up uninvited and were after him. Then that would be all about you. Understanding that if he is going to be trifflin about it means not being cool with him any longer would be your responsibility as well. Dogging her out is what I think raised some questions about your motive. Were you there to show her up or show him what he was missing or something? That is a different twist as well. Just coming over to see a friend who invited you over and nothing else is going on and there is no ulterior motive, should not be a problem for a group of secure mature people, IMHO. BM sounded pretty insecure about the situation in this scenario.