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ncsudgalum04 · #1 06-28-2004, 04:07 PM

i know this isn't really greek related, but i figured i could get some good advice from my nationwide sisters. one of my close friends (whom i don't hang out with that much) got married last september. she is my age (22) and works right down the street from me. her husband who is 26 or 27 has been experiencing difficulty with his heart is currently in surgery as i type. he is not expected to live. this pulled at my heart so much because they are both so young and haven't even been married a year. i don't know what to do in these types of situations. i'm uncomfortable expressing that i'm here for her, but i sent a note with a co-worker (who is related to her) because he's going to visit them right now. do ya'll have any advice on how to be in a situation like this? this is such a heart-wrenching situation and i don't know what to do but feel sorry for them and pray.

hannahgirl · #2 06-28-2004, 08:38 PM

Letting her know that your thoughts and prayers are with her and her husband at this time is one of the best things that you can do. My best advice would be to keep checking in on her, see if she needs anything, lend a helping hand, and just be a support system for her. She and her husband and family need all the love and support they can get. I'll be praying for them too!

sageofages · #3 06-28-2004, 08:50 PM

Leave a voice mail that you are thinking of her. Drop off food, offer to take care of her pets while she is at the hospital, make sure her bills get paid or errands get taken care of. See if she needs any $$ (if can afford) to help cover some expenses. Offer to see that her lawn gets mowed (if she has one) or plants watered. Do her laundry, make her a meal. HUG HER. Bring her a book to read while he is sleeping. See if you can run interference with her well meaning relatives who might be overwhelming her with phone calls and visits.

In other words, think about what would help you if you were in her shoes. Things like I listed would have been a big help for my husband when I had surgery last year.

ncsudgalum04 · #4 06-29-2004, 09:16 AM

those are wonderful ideas, but it's hard to do some of that stuff because they are in chapel hill at the hospital there, which is about 2 hours away from where we live. i don't want to call her because i don't want to be annoying cause i know she's had a billion people calling her. i just hope everything gets better for them. thanks ladies.