Have You All Read . . .

CrimsonTide4 · #1 02-18-2003, 03:07 PM

the INTERRACIAL RELATIONSHIPS thread in Chit Chat.

Some interesting comments and some sickening ones.

http://greekchat.com/gcforums/showth...threadid=29658

Oh and let us not forget the Ghetto FAb thread in Chit Chat. . .

http://greekchat.com/gcforums/showth...threadid=29735

AKA2D '91 · #2 02-18-2003, 03:24 PM

I read it earlier this morning.

I'm glad someone responded saying that their parents were racists and would disown them if they brought any other race home.

Those were not the EXACT words, but most of them are. I can appreciate that. If that is the TRUTH and one can admit it, that's cool. I may not like it, but hey that's his/her folks.

The Ghetto Fab thread, I haven't "seent" it yet. LOL

Edit: I just looked at the IR thread.

If that's what floats your boat...I guess.

NOWorNEVER · #3 02-18-2003, 08:39 PM

I just read all those threads and didn't realize until now how many stupid ass people are here on Greekchat

CrimsonTide4 · #4 02-18-2003, 08:45 PM

Beware because now the General Forums bouncer will refute your comments based on the premise that you have never posted in the General Forums before.

If you are going to argue, do it on my comments and NOT my posting patterns and preferences.

Honeykiss1974 · #5 02-18-2003, 10:33 PM

Ok, the Ghetto Fab thread was getting off the chain. (Is that a Ghetto Fab phrase ?

).

It kills me when folks throw parties like that under the guise of innocennt ignorance.

WHATEVER!

Steeltrap · #6 02-19-2003, 05:18 PM

And there is no point in posting in it. Except for my sorors and some others, I probably will never meet any of those people in my life. I'm far too old to get my drawers in a bunch over people who I don't know and never will meet.

What I think, however, is that many of these people have never met an AfAm in real life. Or if they know them, the AfAms are of the "go along to get along" type who don't make waves. This is why, IMO, some of the others seem to be shocked by the candor I see in the responses.

As for where I'm posting in GC, I like our rooms because we generally have more substantial conversations. No offense to anyone, but I'm nearly 17 years out of college and some of the stuff discussed in the general rooms is beyond me.

Bamboozled · #7 02-19-2003, 05:36 PM

Yeah, I always try to stay out of those convos, but I just can't seem to do it. LOL. I just posted my final thoughts on the topic (yeah right) and I hope at least one person over there gets what I'm saying.

VirtuousErudite · #8 02-19-2003, 05:41 PM

I read it and I've really been wondering if I am wrong for feeling this way but the two black girls over in the forum who are members of NPC orgs are really irking me. I have no problem with the fact that they decided to go NPC but it sorta bothers me that they made the comment that "I would never date a black man" and one of them went as far as to say "all my friends are white". Maybe I'm being extra sensitive but it just makes me sick to see things like that and I may be reading too much into this but I wonder if they even like black people in general.

CrimsonTide4 · #9 02-19-2003, 07:06 PM

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Originally posted by VirtuousErudite
I read it and I've really been wondering if I am wrong for feeling this way but the two black girls over in the forum who are members of NPC orgs are really irking me. I have no problem with the fact that they decided to go NPC but it sorta bothers me that they made the comment that "I would never date a black man" and one of them went as far as to say "all my friends are white". Maybe I'm being extra sensitive but it just makes me sick to see things like that and I may be reading too much into this but I wonder if they even like black people in general.

Chiiiiiiiiiiiile, yes I understand your sentiments exactly.

Dionysus · #10 02-19-2003, 07:51 PM

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Originally posted by VirtuousErudite
I read it and I've really been wondering if I am wrong for feeling this way but the two black girls over in the forum who are members of NPC orgs are really irking me. I have no problem with the fact that they decided to go NPC but it sorta bothers me that they made the comment that "I would never date a black man" and one of them went as far as to say "all my friends are white". Maybe I'm being extra sensitive but it just makes me sick to see things like that and I may be reading too much into this but I wonder if they even like black people in general.

I assume they have not been around a lot of other black people in their lifetime, and the few they've been around were negative. A lack of POSITIVE black role models and environment can fuel attitudes like theirs.

Just as we have been discussing, it is a popular thought that ghetto=black...not just with white people. Sadly there are LOTS of black people who think that too. If you have not been exposed to other black people who have their stuff together, it isn't uncommon not wanting to be associated.

FeeFee · #11 02-19-2003, 07:53 PM

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Originally posted by VirtuousErudite
I read it and I've really been wondering if I am wrong for feeling this way but the two black girls over in the forum who are members of NPC orgs are really irking me. I have no problem with the fact that they decided to go NPC but it sorta bothers me that they made the comment that "I would never date a black man" and one of them went as far as to say "all my friends are white". Maybe I'm being extra sensitive but it just makes me sick to see things like that and I may be reading too much into this but I wonder if they even like black people in general.

Or themselves for that matter.......

Things that make me just shake my head.

Steeltrap · #12 02-19-2003, 08:15 PM

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Originally posted by Dionysus
I assume they have not been around a lot of other black people in their lifetime, and the few they've been around were negative. A lack of POSITIVE black role models and environment can fuel attitudes like theirs.

Just as we have been discussing, it is a popular thought that ghetto=black...not just with white people. Sadly there are LOTS of black people who think that too. If you have not been exposed to other black people who have their stuff together, it isn't uncommon not wanting to be associated.

But what I wonder is how can you be raised by a black parent or two and have such negative attitudes? It does boggle the mind.

Dionysus · #13 02-19-2003, 08:30 PM

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Originally posted by Steeltrap
But what I wonder is how can you be raised by a black parent or two and have such negative attitudes? It does boggle the mind.

Parents are just one source of influence, peers and enviroment outside the house can be just as strong influences....not in all cases though, just some.

Steeltrap · #14 02-19-2003, 08:45 PM

Good points you made about other peers.

But I would think that your parents should be the supreme influence, but I guess that's just me ((shrugs shoulders)).

I was picked on like a mutha when I was a kid because my interests didn't fit someone's stereotype. But d***, it never got to the point where I didn't want to have anything to do with my own.

Afrochic · #15 02-20-2003, 04:21 AM

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Originally posted by VirtuousErudite
I read it and I've really been wondering if I am wrong for feeling this way but the two black girls over in the forum who are members of NPC orgs are really irking me. I have no problem with the fact that they decided to go NPC but it sorta bothers me that they made the comment that "I would never date a black man" and one of them went as far as to say "all my friends are white". Maybe I'm being extra sensitive but it just makes me sick to see things like that and I may be reading too much into this but I wonder if they even like black people in general.

I don't feel you are extra sensitive. I read both of the ladies comments as well and what I will never understand is how do you look at your black face in the mirror, but refuse to give your mirror image, a black man, a chance? It's like partially denying a part of yourself. An episode of Good Fences maybe? I don't knock anyone for dating outside of their race. I say love who loves you, but at least give your race a try before you just dismiss the issue. I couldn't say I would never date a black man when a black man created me. Maybe having the father that I had developed my appreciation for black men. Well I guess preferences make the world go round. I ain't mad at them though cause I love me some black brothas, ain't nothing finer, but I don't and never will understand where they are coming from.