Am I the only one going through this?

White_Chocolate · #1 03-05-2003, 12:18 PM

This is for all the 20 - 30 year olds i know....
> >
> >They call it the "Quarter-life Crisis." It is when you stop
> >going along with the crowd and start realizing that there are a lot of
> >things about yourself that you didn't know and may not like.
> >You start feeling insecure and wonder where you will be in a
> >year or two, but then get scared because you barely know where
> >you are now.
> >
> >You start realizing that people are selfish and that, maybe, those
> >friends that you thought you were so close to aren't exactly
> >the greatest people you have ever met and the people you have lost touch
> >with are some of the most important ones.
> >
> >What you do not realize is that they are realizing that too and
> >are not really cold or catty or mean or insincere, but that they are as
> >confused as you are.
> >
> >You look at your job. It is not even close to what you thought you
> >would be doing or maybe you are looking for one and realizing
> >that you are going to have to start at the bottom and are scared.
> >
> >You miss the comforts of college, of groups, of socializing
> >with the same people on a constant basis. But then you realize
> >that maybe they weren't so great after all. You are beginning to
> >understand yourself and what you want and do not want. Your opinions have
> >gotten stronger. You see what others are doing and find
> >yourself judging a bit more than usual because suddenly you realize that
> >you
> >have certain boundaries in your life and add things to your
> >list of what is acceptable and what is not.
> >
> >You are insecure and then secure. You laugh and cry with the greatest
> >force of your life. You feel alone and scared and confused.
> >
> >Suddenly change is the enemy and you try and cling on to the
> >past with dear life but soon realize that the past is drifting further and
> >further away and there is nothing to do but stay where you are or move
> >forward.
> >
> >You get your heartbroken and wonder how someone you loved could
> >do such damage to you or you lay in bed and wonder why you
> >can't meet anyone decent enough to get to know better. You love someone but
> >maybe love someone else too and cannot figure out why you are doing this
> >because you are not a bad person. One night stands and random hook ups
> >start
> >to look cheap and getting wasted and acting like an idiot starts to took
> >pathetic. You go through the same emotions and questions over and over and
> >talk with your friends about the same topics because you cann ot seem to
> >make a decision. You worry about loans and money and the future and making
> >a
> >life for yourself and while winning the race would be great, right now
> >you'd
> >just like to be a contender!
> >
> >What you may not realize is that everyone reading this relates to it. We
> >are
> >in our best of times and our worst of times,
> >trying as hard as we can to figure this whole thing out. We are making a
> >lot
> >of mistakes, but helping one another learn from them and
> >reaching out to pull one another up. We are not the shiniest group of
> >people, but we are very much a circle. We are there for one
> >another and will listen and grow for the rest of our lives. We will
> >piss one another off, but we will also heal one another's hearts. We are
> >the
> >group who sometimes doesn't need words but will laugh at the
> >end of a conversation that started with angry words.
> >
> >We are friends and in 10 years, when we have figured out where
> >we fit in in this world, we will still be friends always and
> >forever!

Sistermadly · #2 03-05-2003, 12:24 PM

It's also called the return of Saturn (just like the No Doubt album). Do a Google search on return of saturn (or Saturn's Return) and you'll see LOTS of articles associated with it.

I went through it, and when I had my 30th birthday, I suddenly felt... calmer.

Peaches-n-Cream · #3 03-05-2003, 12:27 PM

I wasn't going through this until I read your list.

Thanks a lot!

MoxieGrrl · #4 03-05-2003, 12:34 PM

Aha!! So that is what I've been going through!

texas*princess · #5 03-05-2003, 12:37 PM

for the most part, I think I went through that last semester

mu_agd · #6 03-05-2003, 02:10 PM

i feel like i've been going through this for awhile now...

White_Chocolate · #7 03-05-2003, 05:00 PM

i thought i was metamorphisizing into a b*
everyone is always like 'why are you so apathetic?'
i'm sick of giving out my number to guys that i meet
and then, they never call me
i hate my job
i hate my major but i have changed it like 3 times
i am so sick of just everything in my life
and i always burst out crying when i realize how bad my life sucks

okay, i'm done
and i swear it's not PMS

damasa · #8 03-05-2003, 05:05 PM

I think I'm actually passed this now, I hope anyway. I had quite the stint there where shit just kept on happening to me. One thing after the next. I was like WHY?! WHY?! But I haven't had any surprises or anything lately and life is a lot better. Thinking thoughts about that special girl help now and then.

Cluey · #9 03-05-2003, 07:27 PM

My quarter-life crisis isn't so much about apathy or being mad at the world. It's more about I just can't wait to figure out what I want to do when I grow up. The great irony is part of my job is to try to help high school students figure out what they want to do when they grow up

DeltAlum · #10 03-05-2003, 10:44 PM

It's kinda funny, but I gave a whole lot more thought to turning twenty-five than I did turning fifty.

Interesting time of life.

Blue Violet · #11 03-05-2003, 11:26 PM

... I want my half of the brain back.

White_Chocolate · #12 03-10-2003, 02:56 PM

if i could find the fountain of youth cure(no, it's not botox)
i would be happy
i could stay 25 forever(even though i just turned a year past 21)

i'm starting to let the anger out more
i scream
oh, and i quit giving out my number to guys
now when they ask, i get their number
and that way. . .IF I FEEL LIKE THEY MIGHT BE WORTH IT
i'll call

my major is switched to communications AGAIN
and i'm like 34 hrs short of graduating
i emailed the indianapolis colts' HR dept
and asked for an internship

maybe we just need to take life by the rein and say 'f* it!'