to call or not....Help need advice!

[smr78]

So basically I made a drunk fool of myself on Tuesday, (some might know the situation) and I dont really remember anything, except that I went to my guy friends house who I used to date/still kinda hook up with. The thing is I think I was really pyscho/annoying that night and that he prob. ended up babysitting me/wanting to shoot me. I woke up in a random room, but I never really got to talk to him explain things because I was still completely smashed in the morning. Ok-should I call and apologize to him?! I feel bad and I am SOOOOO embarassed-I never get like that and I think it was quite possibly the drunkest Ive ever been. It has been a couple days but the whole situation is stressing me out-I know a phone call would prob. be awkward but should I do it anyway?! GUys, would you rather a girl call and apologize for acting incredibly drunk and stupid or just ignore the whole thing?! Help! Thanks!

[ADPiViolets]

Seriously, you are focusing on the wrong issue here!

Your health is MUCH MORE IMPORTANT than saving yourself from your drunken stupidity that was IN THE PAST. Focus on the present and your future.

When you posted about this earlier, we all replied to GET TESTED!!! Why don't you take our advice? Or are you in deniel that nothing bad can happen to you?




FYI the original thread was in this forum, entitled:
Mardi Gras Mishap~Help!!!

[smr78]

I am not discrediting anyone's advice to "get tested" although I am pretty much POSITIVE I am fine-I am a virgin, so I think I would know if I had been "tampered with"-besides that, I woke up in all my clothes, and I can remember putting them on to go to the bathroom-so yeah, at this point I am more concerned about my drunk stupidity and I would appreciate responses that coincide to that topic

[ADPiViolets]

Then my advice is to not drink past your limit.

[sugar and spice]

Originally posted by smr78
I am not discrediting anyone's advice to "get tested" although I am pretty much POSITIVE I am fine-I am a virgin, so I think I would know if I had been "tampered with"-besides that, I woke up in all my clothes, and I can remember putting them on to go to the bathroom-so yeah, at this point I am more concerned about my drunk stupidity and I would appreciate responses that coincide to that topic

Regardless of whether you are "positive" you're fine, get tested anyway. Just because you're a virgin doesn't mean that you'll necessarily be sore after sex the first time, although many girls are. STD symptoms aren't necessarily very obvious in girls, so if you contracted one that night, you could never know you had one and later pass it on to a boyfriend, or several boyfriends -- and when they realize they have one you could be in some seriously trouble. It's always, always, always better to be safe than sorry. Anytime you pass out and can't remember things you put yourself in a really vulnerable position, so be careful in the future!

Anyway. Enough moralizing.

I vote to call him. If your behavior was really obnoxious, his opinion of you has already been lowered, so it's not going to hurt much more if he doesn't want to hear from you. And if he didn't mind the behavior that much, he won't mind the phone call that much either.

[valkyrie]

Let's not be too hard on smr78. We've all had too much to drink and as a result have done some pretty stupid things -- at least I have, and I'll freely admit that.

To answer the question -- I think it depends on how things are with this guy. Do you usually call him? If it's pretty common for you two to talk on the phone, I'd call him up and be pretty chill about it, just saying something like, "Hey, I was really wasted the other night and I'm sorry I was such a pain..." or whatever. If you don't normally call him or talk with him on the phone, I would think that you should just wait until you run into him again and mention something about how you're sorry that you were an ass.

I know exactly how you feel right now because I've said any number of really stupid things while drunk. He'll probably get over it, and probably understands that you just had too much to drink and won't hold it against you. I think that your best bet is to be low key about it and don't make a big deal out of it. It'll blow over.

And sweetie, be careful.

Everything (and I mean everything) sugar and spice said. If you were that drunk, his opinion of you is probably lowered anyway... it can't hurt to call him, if for no other reason to say "hey, sorry I acted like an idiot around you, can we talk?".

[smr78]

Thanks for the advice~Whats weird is we don't talk on the phone that much at all~I was hoping to catch him on IM but he hasnt been on the past couple days. I just don't want things to be weird between us and the worst part is the whole incident is TOTALLY not characteristic of me, that's why I am so embarrassed and desperate to make things normal...I don't know if calling would be weird, and if I should just ignore the whole thing...or if its better to explain myself and apologize...I just dont know what will be better-and I feel if I dont call today then it will just be past the point where it would be normal.....ahhhhhh I hate this!

[sugar and spice]

I'd say that if you don't get an opportunity to talk to him today then just pretend like it didn't happen . . . If he ever brings it up again or alludes to it you can just be like, "Hey, sorry about that -- you know I didn't mean any of it." But if he just pretends like it didn't happen, take a cue from him and do the same.

I really feel like you're making too big of a deal out of this. If it freaked him out hardcore then the damage is already done and it's really too late to fix it -- if you didn't scare him off then you don't need to be worrying about it.

[smr78]

so should I call or not......I am confused....should I jsut pick up the phone?! I was thinking of just saying hey, Im just calling to apologize for the other night...I am SO sorry you had to deal with me on what was prob. my drunkest night ever, I honestly dont remember anythign so I dont know what Im apologizing for, but I got the feeling that I was prob. pyscho/annoying/overemotional and I am REALLY embarrassed. SOrry!!!! Is this ok? Or would doing this just make it into a bigger deal? I over analyze everything....so I dont want to make something worse...but I also am kinda curious to see what did happen that night.....should i call?!

[damasa]

Originally posted by smr78
so should I call or not......I am confused....should I jsut pick up the phone?! I was thinking of just saying hey, Im just calling to apologize for the other night...I am SO sorry you had to deal with me on what was prob. my drunkest night ever, I honestly dont remember anythign so I dont know what Im apologizing for, but I got the feeling that I was prob. pyscho/annoying/overemotional and I am REALLY embarrassed. SOrry!!!! Is this ok? Or would doing this just make it into a bigger deal? I over analyze everything....so I dont want to make something worse...but I also am kinda curious to see what did happen that night.....should i call?!

Look, pick up the damn phone and call him. See what he says and if you feel things are kinda "weird" apologize for the way you acted the other night. Quit beating around the bush and trying to get more advice from people. You've already been given the advice you need. Now call.....

The longer you wait, the more pissed he might get, if he is pissed.OR the longer you wait, the more he will think that you don't care.

Sorry to be so harsh, but just do it, call him, now.

[James]

Well you are just a bowl of fun topped off with whipped cream and strawberries aren't you? lol

Originally posted by ADPiViolets
Then my advice is to not drink past your limit.

[ADPiViolets]

Originally posted by James
Well you are just a bowl of fun topped off with whipped cream and strawberries aren't you? lol

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Nah... it just means you'll never find a thread started by me like this one where I ask people what to do if I ever make a drunken fool of myself.