Although, I'm pretty much AGAINST asking complete strangers for advice, I have a certain situation that needs input from outside sources...I need opinions from people who don't know any details, just the logistics...after reading some of the advice I have seen posted on GC, I feel pretty confident in asking for anyone's input- so please- reply.....I need help!
Well *big breath* ...
I've been dating this guy for about a year and a half. The relationship is WAAY more intense than I'd like it to be, and he's rather posessive and demanding. (ex. He hates the fact that I have "celebrity crushes" on Matthew Broderick and Kenneth Branagh. I never tell him I love him enough, I never kiss him enough, I'm not in a good enough mood for him, etc.) He wasn't always this way, well, he HAS been insecure for his whole life, but he's never been like this with ME until recently: when he found out he was moving across the country.
I've put up with mood swings, a REALLY scary temper (he's never hit me, but one time we got in a fight and he wanted one of my friends to talk to me so he grabbed her arm so tightly it left bruises...which was really scary), and just really being made to feel really crappy, like nothing I can do will be good enough for him.
He used to be absolutely perfect though, (aside from the insecurity) and I really miss that side of him. But anyway, we've been getting into huge and serious fights lately, and I decided that I'm sick of it. I broke up with him yesterday, but today, I'm a wreck. People have told me he's miserable, he's crying, he's sad, and it kills me to know that I'm causing someone so much pain. I really do love him, but the OLD him. I don't know what to do because I've told him how I feel SO many times, and he just hasn't changed. He'll stop for like, a week, and then he'll get all demanding and moody again and I hate it.
He's moving away on Jan.27th, and I want to be on good terms (whether or not we get back together, which I'm not sure of yet...) It basically comes down to not being able to tell if the good outweighs the bad....I have no clue......
I know that this was long...and if you made it to then end you rock, thanks
If anyone has something to say, please, I really need to hear something from someone....anyone!!!
-Sarah
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