Sister Love

[theta sig agd]

Hello Everyone!

I need some sister love!! I am having a bad year I think! I guess I need to let you know what is going on...Well, I was getting married on June 8th of this year to a man I have known for a little over three years (that's long for me) Anyway, he went to visit his father in March, who has never liked me by the way, and when he returned he said he had made his decision and we were not getting married anymore.

This FLOORED me!!!! I had no idea what I could have done wrong. I mean we "loved" each other so much. He even said before he got on the plane that we were going to have a wonderful marriage. So what went wrong??? Well I found out his father had a "talk" with him while they were on their fishing trip which I think was really a me bashing!! That night when they returned from fishing he had changed all his passwords for all our stuff (Bank accounts, email, ins). He didnt even call to let me know he was doing this.

I guess to get the full impact of the story you have to know about my ex and his family. His father is an a hole! You cant do anything to please him and my ex ever since his parents divorced will do anything to try to impress him!

To make a long story short! He not only broke off the wedding( paid in full by my parents I might add!) he told me I had to leave ASAP. I had to quit my job with one day notice, drop out of class, and move with NOTHING but a car (which I guess is something) back in with my parents to start all over.

Finding a job has been somewhat of a challenge. I do have an interview at 1:30 today, but I dont think I will make enough to support myself!! Which was why I was in school so I could contribute more and have a decent paying job.

Now, I am feeling things I have never felt before and it is alittle scary. Thought I would turn to my sisters for support....dont know where else to turn..

I hope I havent bored anyone!! Thanks for getting this far!

[greeklawgirl]

Wendy,

OH MY GOD.

That has to be the most awful story that I have heard in a long time. I am so sorry and if there is ANYTHING that I can do to help, please don't hesitate to contact me. The only thing that I can tell you--and I know it probably doesn't seem like much--but THANK GOD you found out about your ex's true colors before you got married or had children.

I firmly believe that one of the most difficult things to have to deal with in a relationship are the significant other's family members. It is always a delicate tight-rope act, especially when they are a little loony. My ex before I met my husband had a certifiable b***h-lunatic for a mother. (And if you know me, you know that I just don't say things like that about other people.) I know that married life would have been total misery with her as a MIL. So, be thankful that you escaped in time, and rest assured that someone 1000x better will be on his way to you eventually!

Now, onto other things. And I'm sorry to bring this up, but its the legal side of me that I just can't supress (darn it! lol). If you had a joint bank account that you put money into, he just can't lock you out of it! You are entitled to get your money back.

Oh, and I hope that you hock the ring for some beaucoup bucks.

What a jackass.

We love you no matter what, and we're here for you whenever you need us!

[hawaiiagd]

Oh Wendy, I am so sorry....

Please e-me anytime if there is anything I can do to help

hawaiiagd@hotmail.com

Your friends are here for you.

Loyally,
Mai Ly

[AGDZO Susan]

I'm sorry to hear about the chaos in your life. I agree with greeklawgirl....thank goodness you found out about his true colors now. That still doesn't erase the pain you're feeling or the upheaval in your life right now though. When God closes a door, he has left a window open! I know you'll find that open window really soon and there will be lots of sunshine and red and buff roses!

[LeslieAGD]

Wendy, I can't believe this guy was such an ass!!! A similar situation happened to a girl in my class last semester. Her fiance came home one day and was like "I don't want to get married and I want you to move out." I can't imagine what that must feel like!

Even though Maria's our legal eagle, I was thinking some of the same things! If they were joint accounts, get your money!!! Do you rent or own the place you were living, because if you both paid rent, he had no right to kick you out. And yeah, this is vengeful, but sell that ring...maybe you can pay your parents back for some of their expenses.

I'm always here to listen if you need to vent...LeslieAGD@aol.com

Wendy, feel free to PM or email me tdickers@umich.edu agdluv4me@aol.com or tdicke79@hotmail.com anytime! Yeah I know I have a ton of emails and just think, I've got 2 more . And this may not be very mature or womanly at the moment, but Ive got a whole chpater of sisters that could do a lil butt kickin' for ya

L&L, Tonya

[JenAGD]

Wendy,

Like all your other sisters, I am outraged for you! No one deserves to be treated like that, especially a smart beautiful girl like you!!

I know you may not feel like it right now, but consider yourself lucky! You are so much better off finding out what kind of person your ex is before you were married to him. Also, get your money back from your joint checkign account & ANYTHING else you put money into. You'll have to consult Maria for legal advice but I agree that you should definitely fight for what's yours. I also agree to hock the ring!!

If you need anything at all, email me. jenagd@bellsouth.net

I'm here for you!
Jen

[AlphaGam1019]

Wendy,

I'm sorry to hear what happened! If this guy changed his mind on the account of what his father said then you don't need to be with this guy--- he obviously can't make independent decisions. :P ugh.

I'm here if you need to talk!

LiEP
Nina

[AGDLynn]

I sooo agree with the others. Sounds like you are better off without him. I also agree with Maria..especially if some of the accounts are in your names together....or who gets stick with all the bills...Start documenting stuff now to protect your credit rating.

When we meet at UA, I'll buy you a marg or beer or whatever (assuming you're of legal age, lol.)

LieP,
Lynn

Ya got my email..use it!

[theta sig agd]

WOW!

Thanks everyone! I feel sooo much better today and after reading all of your posts it made me giggle and feel all warm and fuzzy inside!!!!

I definitly have everyone's emails and wont pretend that this is over so I most likely will use them !! It feels good to have this support unconditionally in my sisters. Something I thought I had in him!!!

I did get money from him....now! He gave me a check for everything he felt I had and for "pain and suffering"!!!! He actually used those words!! It pissed me off more!!

Anyway, I probably will sell the ring but I dont think I will be able to do that now....it was my dream ring and I need time to mourn!! pathetic I know!

AGDLynn.....I am happy to report I am of legal age and would love a marg or any drink when we meet!!!LOL!! Maybe then I will buy you one thanking you for buying me one!!

Thanks again!

LOVE in Epsilon Pi!!