would you date someone with a kid?

skip101 · #1 02-20-2002, 06:20 PM

anyone out there ever date anyone with kids?

would you ever consider staying with them long term?

xok85xo · #2 02-20-2002, 07:42 PM

been there, done that, won't do it again..and while i never actually met the kid..shrug..too much baggage for me..new requirements = never been married, no kids

33girl · #3 02-20-2002, 07:59 PM

hmmmm.

I think if I did, I would prefer someone with older kids (10-12 or up) that I could be friends with, rather than a small child I would end up helping to raise. (Yes I know 10-12 year olds aren't completely raised yet, but they are out of diapers.)

Bridget3D · #4 02-20-2002, 09:30 PM

Uh, no! They get in the way. It also indicates looseness, which is a trait I'm not looking for.

amycat412 · #5 02-20-2002, 09:34 PM

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Originally posted by Bridget3D
Uh, no! They get in the way. It also indicates looseness, which is a trait I'm not looking for.

Not looseness necessarily--depends on the age of the person. I'm in my 30's, so its not unusual for the older men I date to have kids-- personally I'd prefer no kids, but I wouldn't let it stop me from dating someone I was crazy about.

But when I was younger, I absolutely wouldn't have dated someone with kids.

Peaches-n-Cream · #6 02-20-2002, 09:43 PM

I have. If you get involved with someone with children, know that they will and should be a priority. As for looseness maybe that is the case in high school or college, but it's not that unusual in your late twenties and beyond.

FuzzieAlum · #7 02-21-2002, 12:38 AM

I always said I never would, but then just recently I went on a first date with a guy with a 12-yr-old daughter. But I have to admit it gave me a lot of pause - it isn't just the two of you in the relationship. I don't know if I could get serious about someone with a child.

LexiKD · #8 02-21-2002, 01:04 AM

It would depend on what mind set I was in. At the moment I cannot even handle my dog and me, so no not now but maye later.

ZTAngel · #9 02-21-2002, 02:05 AM

I think that if I was a little bit older I'd say yes. If I were in my 30's, it would be understandable. Sometimes, marriages don't work but kids were produced during it. So, if I were in my 30's I wouldn't mind at all. Plus, I'd be a little more mature as well. But, as for right now, I wouldn't just because I don't think I could handle some of the issues that would go along with it.

aggieAXO · #10 02-21-2002, 03:25 AM

NO way-I myself really don't want children let alone someone elses.

SATX*APhi · #11 02-21-2002, 03:47 AM

I really do not think so. I am only 20, a full-time college student and very active sorority member. Getting involved with someone who has a child(ren) would just not fit into my picture right now. However, if I were to really, really like a guy prior to knowing that he has a child, I may have to think about it. Of course, that would be a case by case situation. And of course, if he neglected to tell me he had a child, then I'd have to kick him to the curb.

valkyrie · #12 02-21-2002, 12:54 PM

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Originally posted by aggieAXO
NO way-I myself really don't want children let alone someone elses.

OMG, we ARE twins...I feel exactly the same way!

HotDamGam · #13 02-21-2002, 01:13 PM

I don't know that the child would be my biggest problem. I'd be more concerned about the crazy ex that always seems to go along with people eith kids.

SparkliiQTMTSU · #14 02-21-2002, 01:43 PM

I myself would actaully date someone with a kid but it would depend i mean I would need to know that I really wana be with this person b/c having people come in and out of akids life can be very damaging..LOL this is what I get for studying Child Psychology

but yeah I think that if I felt right about it I would definitly date someone with a kid.

Nichole

ADPiSweety · #15 02-21-2002, 02:36 PM

I dated someone with a kid once. Since I love kids we got along great! It was pretty interesting I must admit it was my first time dating someone with a child. But overall we got along great etc, but in the end, not me and his dad lol. Honestly I wouldn't mind dating someone with a child again.