Dropping ADPi, Can I join another?

ijustwantout · #1 10-12-2013, 05:36 PM

Hey guys,
So I recently pledged Alpha Delta Pi and went through "alpha initiation." However, I recently found I don't have any connection to the girls and there not quite my cup of tea (Still a fabulous sorority though!). I am looking to drop, but still want to be in greek life. I was wondering if I drop, can I join another sorority since I am only an "Alpha" (ADPi's term for pledge), and haven't gone through full initiation? Any help would be great, thanks!

AZ-AlphaXi · #2 10-12-2013, 05:54 PM

As long as you haven't been initiated then you are eligible to join another NPC sorority. You would be eligible for recruitment at the next formal recruitment period. If you'll receive a bid if you go through recruitment again is another question entirely. At many campuses non-freshmen and especially those who depledge are at a disadvantage in recruitment.

FSUZeta · #3 10-12-2013, 06:09 PM

You will have to wait until formal recruitment next year, but you will be eligible to rush again at that time, since you have not been initiated.

adpiucf · #4 10-12-2013, 09:21 PM

Yes. You can drop and join another sorority, but you can't join another sorority until next year's recruitment. Good luck!

DubaiSis · #5 10-12-2013, 11:27 PM

So you pledged an ADPi chapter of 20 women? It must be the smallest ADPi chapter on the planet if there are no women you can connect with after something between 0 weeks and 8 weeks. Because I've always known who I would be best friends with for the rest of my life in that amount of time. And it's a fabulous chapter of women you have nothing in common with? I can only read from that that you are NOT fabulous. But won't the other sororities also be too good for you?

als463 · #6 10-13-2013, 10:42 AM

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Originally Posted by DubaiSis

So you pledged an ADPi chapter of 20 women? It must be the smallest ADPi chapter on the planet if there are no women you can connect with after something between 0 weeks and 8 weeks. Because I've always known who I would be best friends with for the rest of my life in that amount of time. And it's a fabulous chapter of women you have nothing in common with? I can only read from that that you are NOT fabulous. But won't the other sororities also be too good for you?

Can I just say how much I LOVE your response to this? I think you are saying what many of us are thinking.

Jill1228 · #7 10-13-2013, 11:28 AM

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Originally Posted by ijustwantout

Hey guys,
So I recently pledged Alpha Delta Pi and went through "alpha initiation." However, I recently found I don't have any connection to the girls and there not quite my cup of tea (Still a fabulous sorority though!). I am looking to drop, but still want to be in greek life. I was wondering if I drop, can I join another sorority since I am only an "Alpha" (ADPi's term for pledge), and haven't gone through full initiation? Any help would be great, thanks!

QFP
DubaiSis, I adore you

ASUADPi · #8 10-13-2013, 12:16 PM

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Originally Posted by DubaiSis

So you pledged an ADPi chapter of 20 women? It must be the smallest ADPi chapter on the planet if there are no women you can connect with after something between 0 weeks and 8 weeks. Because I've always known who I would be best friends with for the rest of my life in that amount of time. And it's a fabulous chapter of women you have nothing in common with? I can only read from that that you are NOT fabulous. But won't the other sororities also be too good for you?

^^^^love this!

Not that I want to "scare" the OP, but doesn't it tend to get around when a new member drops a group and then goes through formal the next fall? Does it depend on the school on whether that can be a negative or not?

But I'm sure I can speak for all of us when I say that none of us would want a girl who doesn't like our chapter to initiate. If you don't like ADPi I say drop, but I also say you need to be very well aware that recruitment may not be as successful next year for you.

pinksequins · #9 10-13-2013, 12:20 PM

If the chapter is as small as suggested, it is quite possible that there isn't a good fit. In such a case, it's often better for both the chapter and new member to part ways. Of course, that doesn't speak to whether the OP will be successful in securing a bid elsewhere in the future nor does it answer the question of why the OP was not able to discern the lack of fit earlier. In any event, the chapter and she aren't a good match for whatever reason. That's perfectly okay. Both parties can move on.

ijustwantout · #10 10-13-2013, 02:36 PM

Ok, so I totally understand that formal would be incredibly hard for me next year, but the fact of the matter is that I don't have a connection with any of the girls in my sorority. I feel bad for dropping, but I'm not enjoying it and I don't see any other option. If one of you guys have a suggestion for me that would be great instead of just being just the catty sorority girls you guys are proving yourselves to be. Thanks

ASTalumna06 · #11 10-13-2013, 03:02 PM

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Originally Posted by ijustwantout

Ok, so I totally understand that formal would be incredibly hard for me next year, but the fact of the matter is that I don't have a connection with any of the girls in my sorority. I feel bad for dropping, but I'm not enjoying it and I don't see any other option. If one of you guys have a suggestion for me that would be great instead of just being just the catty sorority girls you guys are proving yourselves to be. Thanks

QFP

I'm getting good at this!

pinksequins · #12 10-13-2013, 03:16 PM

Interesting. OP, I was noting that sometimes there really isn't a fit and that it is okay to drop. I'm not sure that qualifies as catty. That said, I actually appreciate that you used the word "catty" rather than "caddy" like some posters. At least you know we aren't on the links.

DubaiSis · #13 10-13-2013, 03:18 PM

My suggestion is find activities in college that aren't sorority. You probably didn't understand what was involved with a LIFETIME commitment to ADPi. It's way more than letters and getting to make out with the best guys. And the friendships aren't instant. So whatever it was you were thinking Greek life was going to be will possibly be attainable through other venues. And you need to learn to be more discerning about what you want and what's going on around you. And because I might have been too subtle the first time, if your chapter is NOT 20 women and is in fact 50 or 60 or more, then you are patently wrong. There ARE women you are compatible with; you just haven't found them.

ijustwantout · #14 10-13-2013, 03:40 PM

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Originally Posted by pinksequins

Interesting. OP, I was noting that sometimes there really isn't a fit and that it is okay to drop. I'm not sure that qualifies as catty. That said, I actually appreciate that you used the word "catty" rather than "caddy" like some posters. At least you know we aren't on the links.

Actually pinksequins, I should have clarified that not all the girls were being incredibly rude about this matter. I actually did appreciate what you had to say, I'm sorry if you felt my comment was being directed at you!

pinksequins · #15 10-13-2013, 03:49 PM

Thanks. There is good advice on beoming involved in other activities on your campus. It will enable you to meet Greeks in a different setting, for one. We don't know your campus (and don't tell us!!!), so your future opportunities are not known. Good luck!