Black balling?

[the_greek]

What's your guys experience with this? Have you lost any brothers or sisters to this? What was the after math of it.

[Kevin]

It's different for every organization and probably depends largely upon what the status of the individual being targeted is within the organization.

[ree-Xi]

What do you mean, specifically?

Are you asking if anyone has lost initiated members over voting against/blackballing a potential member? If it's a matter of your official process and ritual of membership selection, I guess you can't take it too personally because you have to trust the system your organization has set up.

If you're not saying that, then you need to be clearer.

[greekdee]

I don't have any first hand experience with it, but a family member's fraternity blackballed a pledge once. The guy went on and pledged another fraternity...then went on and became very famous in the music industry. The aftermath for them is that they sure wish they had his alum support now.

My husband was president of his fraternity and once had an issue come up where many brothers wanted to blackball a pledge. My husband agreed the guy was far from measuring up and was a major problem, but really dreaded the process of sending him packing... he knew it would bring down a firestorm of trouble because of the guy's family and other connections. As it turned out, the pledge didn't make grades for the second time -- they had held him over -- so they had a clear cut reason for letting him go and nobody could argue about it.

[adpiucf]

I don't know of any NPC sororities that follow this practice. The guys in fraternities who were blackballed that I knew either went on to pledge another fraternity or decided to do something else. It's not the end of the world.

Weren't you just posting about wanting to drop out of your fraternity because you don't like living in the house? Why do you care about blackballing if you're leaving?

[the_greek]

Yeah that was a dumb question, I forgot most people don't talk about this shit hah

[Psi U MC Vito]

I thought that was what you meant. Black Ball I noticed can have two pretty different meanings. However most people aren't going to talk about expelling members from their organizations. That tends to stay "in the family" as much as possible.

[adpiucf]

Obviously chapter members have differences of opinion and the minority can be extremely vocal. It takes time to heal if there are differences of opinion, but it won't break the chapter. If people are that mad over a fair majority vote that comports with fraternity and university policy, you would probably be glad to show them the door and have them leave.