Rushing as a Sophomore

[hautehippie61]

I'm a sophomore at a private Southern school and contemplating rush this year. My mother and some of her sisters were all in Sorority A, which has a chapter at my school. Ideally, I would love to be able to maintain a legacy, though, of course, I understand that Sorority A might not be the best fit for me, etc.

I rushed last year as a freshman -- my school has six chapters, and just began to colonize another chapter this fall. Anyways -- going into rush, I didn't really have much of an idea about any of the sororities, so I treated all of them with the same respect. However, I didn't try my best as far as physical presentation goes; my clothes didn't fit right, in all honesty I was pretty haphazardly put-together though I did manage to keep conversations going at all of the houses, not have awkward or stilted conversation, etc.

Anyways, the second round of rush, I was invited back to 3 houses (the max was 4 I think), one of which was Sorority A. This was something I was extremely excited about; the conversation I had there was pretty stilted however and a little bit awkward -- the sister I was talking to could not have been more disinterested, either in the process or in me I would guess.

The other two houses I was invited back for I wasn't as thrilled about I guess mostly because one of them, Sorority B, was trying to makeover their reputation on campus, and as such had a big emphasis on partying, going out; I had also had lunch with some of the girls from Sorority B a couple of times before rush and we truly did not have much in common (I'm a pretty talkative person as it is haha). Sorority C was the last one I was invited back to on the second day -- in all honesty I spent most of my conversation at Sorority C gossiping about friends I had in common with the sister I was talking to.

Third round, I was cut from Sorority A and Sorority B -- surprisingly, I was invited back to Sorority C despite what I understand now to be kind of a no-no on the conversation front. I'll admit I was pretty disappointed to have been dropped from A and so I decided to drop out of rush, partly because I wasn't really sure if greek life was right for me or not.

I know girls from Sorority A and B who are often quite friendly though unfortunately I still don't know anyone from C (I guess we just don't run in the same circles). In retrospect I'm sorry I didn't take rush more seriously -- I've also given it a lot of thought and truly think greek life would be right for me!

Basically what I'm trying to decide is, as a sophomore, whether or not it would be worth it to go through rush again. I do know of at least 6-7 sophomores who recieved bids last year. None of the sororities at my school are having informal recruitment events (they all met quota). Ideally I would love to have the chance to join Sorority A though I do like just about all of the sororities on my campus, for the most part!