Sounds to me like you guys are wanting her to find some learning disability issue with her son. Everyone has something wrong them, does that mean everyone should get massive testing done that will probably be long and drawn out? Do any of you realize that it could be a small matter that could easily be corrected without the advice/help of doctors? Doctors arent going to tell you nothing is wrong with your child or else they dont get paid. They get paid to find something wrong with your kid and, in many cases, if there isnt anything wrong they usually make up something or intentionally find something wrong with your kid so you can spend more money on tests and procedures. And what about the son here? What is probably a small issue that could be corrected with the help of both parents could easily turn around and become something much much worse. If the kid keeps having people tell him something is wrong with him then he's eventually going to believe it and end up with all sorts of problems. I know this first hand because it's been done to two cousins of mine (boht males) by an aunt who thinks something is wrong with her kids because doctors and my grandmother keep telling her something is wrong but they're not sure what it is.
They say both of them are a little slow and they're always needing tests doen on them. Its gotten so bad to the point where one of them now has gashes on his head from where they did "tests". Its ironic, though. Everytime they go and see my parents they act totally normal and different than when they are with their mom and dad. They don't act sick, dumb, slow or anything. This has led my immediate family and I to believe its an attention issue, not a thinking disorder. Something was wrong in the family life and it affected the kids and eventually it ended up to other people thinking something is wrong with them. Its out-right sick and enrages me, my brother and my parents that both of them are being put through all this crap and the whole family thinks they're both a little slow when they're really not. We realize that my aunt is a shitty parent who has been married 5 times now and its now affected them to the point where they had problems in school and now everyone thinks they're mentally handicapped to some degree. I spent a couple hours with them both not to long ago along with my borther and both of them were fine. But as soon as they got back around their mother and her husband....they acted completely different.
I'm not saying this is the issue with wendi, not saying it's a possibility she's a bad parent. But what I am saying is that maybe the boy isnt getting something from one of the two parents that he needs or maybe there are some problems in the home that have affected him and its showing up in school. All I'm asking, wendi, is that before you go and get this testing done (since you've already did the extra help stuff you mentioned) talk to him about other things and find out if anything in his home-life is bothering him. Asking him if everything is ok. Obviously he's afraid of something or doesnt feel that he can come talk to you because he was so late in bringing that notice to you. Its apparent that he feels like he can't come to you about everything otherwise you would have seen that note a lot sooner. The boy is in first grade, he's too young to feel stupid talking to his mom about anything....so there might be deeper issues. To give you an example, when I was about his age I did shit that would get attention and I didnt realize thats what I was doing. When I'd get bit by a bug or scrapped while playing, after a scab would form I'd pick it off. It would piss my parents off to no end. My mother thought something was wrong with me, my dad didnt understand why I wouldnt quit. Eventually, after seeing a guidence counselor, they found out I did it because of attention and issues in the home life. I didnt have some sort of illness or mental problem like some people thought. It was suggested that my parents pay me 5$ for every week I didnt pick a sore when i'd get injured or bitten by a bug and within a 2 months I didnt do it anymore. That and the homelife changed, my dad stopped being so hard on me for every little thing I did wrong. After that things were fine. Why don't you suggest to your son that every time he does well in his reading you'll treat him. If you can't afford paying him to get over this try treating him to his favorite dinner or take him somewhere he likes to go, maybe even the zoo. All that testing should be the last resort...it's the worse thing a kid can go through and often times it leads to more problems and the kid will grow up thinking somethign is always wrong with him and that he isnt normal. It doesnt take a rocket scientist to know that isnt good for a child at all.
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