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Originally posted by juniorgrrl
Why is that? IMO, being a bridesmaid shouldn't absolve someone from buying a present, simply because they spent money on a dress, travel, etc. Even if its a smaller gift because of the other expenses incurred, I think its gracious to give something to the couple as a gesture of good wishes.
When I was in a wedding last year, I spent about $200 on the dress and shoes. I gave her a $25 gift card as a shower gift, bought drinks for the shower and my FI and I bought her a place setting of china as a wedding gift.
Down here, cash is a big no-no. In general, I'll spend about $50 on a gift, more if I'm close to the person. The average wedding in NOLA probably runs about 35pp, so I feel like a $50 gift is fair.
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I'm in my best friend from college's wedding in September. I was so honored to be asked at first but now it's becoming a hassle. She expected us to have the shower (in July) planned by Christmas... wasn't happening.
Last night I got a call from her MOH asking me for a check for $200 to cover the shower and the LIMO?!?! I never agreed to pay for the limo, the MOH was going to get it (she works at a funeral parlor and was going to get it from there, but something about that's illegal or something, so she told the bride she would take care of it and pay for it herself) and this completely caught me off guard.
What should I do? I spent close to $200 on the dress, shoes, alterations, etc. Plus I live 200+ miles away and have to drive there for the shower and wedding and take a couple of days off work. I don't want to complain to the bride, she has a very short temper and will tell me off, plus I don't want her to stress over something kinda petty, but I don't think this is right.
So for the gift, is it ok to give something small? Or will that offend the bride?