Sorry to crash your board but I wanted to share a similar experience I went through (all though not the same by far, as yours). Anyways, I graduated a year before my pledge class did. It was hard for me because they had an extra year to bond after graduation and I kind of was resentful because I felt "left behind" everytime I went back to see them; our relationship just wasn't the same anymore. Even now, years later, it is hard for me to see that my old best friend, roommate and pledge sister doesn't even TALK to me anymore
. There were recently pics of her wedding posted on our Alumnae website. I felt sad that I wasn't kept in the loop about this, and other, younger sisters were. But you know what? I still know that there are other super-cool sisters out there I have met in DPhiE, that I have more in common with now anyways. I have learned that even though we have many "sisters" that doesn't mean that all of them are always going to be there for you, just like friends we have made who aren't are sisters are not always there for us. If I were you I would continue to reach out to your ZTA sisters who are willing to be there for you and F*&K the ones who don't care. It's their loss for not wanting to get to know you because you sound like a really great person to me
. Plus, it's their own issues they have to deal with that they are uncomfortable with your situation.