[HotDamnImAPhiMu]

I dated a Marine who came back from Iraq and went a little crazy when he got home. A lot of drinking, a couple one night stands, a lot of wild nights out with his buddies.

Two months after he'd been back, he met me. Things were great, we fell in love, he didn't feel the drive to do crazy stuff anymore. Five months after we'd started dating, one of those one night stands called him.

She'd lied about being on the pill, she said, and was 7 months pregnant with his child. A DNA test after the child was born proved the Marine was the father, and it's been a nightmare for the poor guy ever since.

This girl. Has done nothing. But screw him over. I'm not with the guy anymore, but I talk to him every once in awhile, and it's always something different -- the mom filed for some crazy custody situation. Is threatening to sue him because he didn't pay any prenatal costs. Is threatening to move out of state. Wants the dad to date her. Says she's being thrown out of her place. Says she needs money to buy baby formula. Lots of lying, lots of heartache. She even tries to keep the guy from seeing his son, whenever she starts seeing a new guy.

This girl's still doing cocaine and working as a waitress and living off her parents. The guy's life has fallen apart -- he lost a great relationship with a great girl (haha, that'd be me), a *ton* of money on DNA tests, court costs, lawyer's fees, and child support -- and now he's 23, tied to a woman he hates for the next 18 years, and stuck in DC because if he moves anywhere else -- even as a career move! -- that ends his relationship with his kid.



What I'm trying to say is, please don't have a baby with a woman you're not in love with. It's guarenteed heartache. And the baby is pretty screwed -- that's not the home life a child deserves. No matter how together Daddy is, Mommy is a mess, and Mommy's set on making relations between Daddy and son a mess.