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I agree with Heidi about NOT naming names about negative stuff. On the other hand, there was a message post, made by a girl about pledging Phi Mu that was beautiful. I don't see where it does any good to berate a chapter by name and university.

I know some like to see the dirt and gossip and the wounded feelings, but personally I like to see the positive in all the sororities. We all work many hours to make rush a success and we know that we can't make everyone (or even close to that) happy. I don't mind if a rushee gets into how much she loves a particular house and its members and feels comfortable there. But, I see no benefit, other than to hurt others, to say: "I thought they were boring or cold."

And to hear other Greeks snicker at a sorority, that is bashed by a rushee for one reason or another, is disappointing. We all do our best--both rushees and members. At bottom, rush is very personal for both the rushee and the sorority, and I think we need to be sensative to the feelings of both.

My university has one of the most competitive rushes of all, but on bid day you can see all the members from the different chapters celebrating and hugging each other--even taking pictures where ChiO is with a KD or a DDD or a DG, etc. This is what MOST of Greek life is really about.