[33girl]

I know this is going to sound like I'm an unenlightened slave to the patriarchy and all that hoo hah.

But I think about something that happened in my chapter.

Two groups of 3 friends joined - 3 males and 3 females. All of them were active and involved and super into it when they first joined - by the time of their graduation only the females were still in. I believe it was because the women basically ran roughshod over the men. They brought their (female) friends to parties and pushed them hard for membership, they organized all the events, you name it. The guys got tired of it and quit. These were not "wussy" guys by any means, they just didn't want to eat sleep and breathe APO 27 hours in a day.

I think as a whole that women are more organized than men and in a group like APO where we really cannot select members based on personality, it sometimes can result in situations like I described.

Maybe this is more a personality thing than a male/female thing - I don't know. One thing I DON'T like to see is women or men using APO as a substitute for a social GLO. It turns into a social hour when what it should be about is doing service. Yes, there is a social component that's very important. It's why we call each other brothers. But when it turns into something that overrides the service component, that's when it needs to stop. I think this is something that probably harms many chapters.