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Originally posted by darling1
i was commenting from a general standpoint. hair texture/grain is another stereotype associated with your complexion. my comment about conking has to do with my belief and experience that those who are darker toned have self-esteem issues. on some level they want to be lighter and have the 'good hair'. it was my attempt to be slightly lighthearted.
btw i am a woman.
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Gotcha.
Your attempt at lightheartedness really does nothing more than feed into stereotypes and colorism nonsense. People of all shades of blackness have self-esteem issues. All of us were ridiculed by whites. Lighter skinned blacks were simply told that we were more acceptable and more beautiful than are our darker skinned brothers and sisters. Lightskinned and darkskinned blacks actually believed this nonsense and it became ingrained in our mindset and socialization. THIS is why we have colorism within our community. THIS is why darker skinned blacks sometimes pick on lighter skinned blacks and vice versa.
Thank GOD that I was not raised in a color struck and hair texture conscious family. My family loves its diversity of hues and hair and you will NEVER hear us talking about who is whatever complexion and who has whatever type of hair. We are all beautiful...period.