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i think a good way to be a good big
is to not so much try to be "there" for them in a sense
as just, become friends with them
that's what I did, my lil bro is one of my best friends,
i think it's just because so many people in my chapter were poor big bros that I discovered they spent too much time trying to be a big brother, and not enough time just being a good friend.
Also, go out for dinner once in a while with your whole family
I mean, grand big, lil lil, anybody that's still active in the chapter that's in your family tree, go out to dinner and just talk about various shit, and here's a key, if the conversation is wierd, or there is ever awkward silence, then you're being a shitty big because you should know the person well enough (be good enough of friends) that there is no wierd silences...we'll say that's the ultimate test
Also, too much big bro, lil bro stuff stops immediately after initiation, it shouldn't, keep going out to dinner, meet each other for lunch on the occassion, the longer the bond, the stronger the bond...
just my thoughts
Cory
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