Pike4Life - You may want to edit your post and remove the part of it that some people (long term members know who "all" I mean) could misconstrue as another ill of greek life. There is so much BS going on in some forums about hazing and stuff, that I just don't want to add fuel to the fire. No harm meant - just trying to prevent another thread from flaming
Amye - Your description was good, but in my opinion, I wouldn't say its to show to her that she is the equivalent to his brothers. Its more of an outward token when both members are greek.
As far as what I've seen the ceremonies vary from simple and private to entire chapters. The best ones were when we'd have a candlelight and a girl wouldn't know it was for her. Then as the candle passed, when she was holding it, her little and big sister would lean over and blow it out. Then he would come in with the lavalier. Oh - I'm getting teary eyed thinking about those...how romantic! Wish my guy had been greek. Its a very serious thing and we also think of it as a pre-engagement deal.
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