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I agree with what has been said however, I do feel that much of what was discussed in the Alpha forum was very sensitive because of the ways that gay men are protrayed in society. I don't think it's the same as a lesbian woman who is a member of XYZ sorority coming out or living in that lifestyle. Society penalizes being gay and male, not to mention being BLACK, gay and male. Being a gay woman on the other hand, isn't as stigmatized. Furthermore, there is a belief that a woman can go both ways, or be gay one day and not the next (a la Ann Heche) or be bisexual. WOmen don't automatically feel that a lesbian friend is trying to "get some: from them. Men, on the other hand, cringe at the thought of being in the locker room with a brothah who discloses that he's gay because men KNOW they are very visual and led by their...Therefore, when a man sleeps with another man, any other points of contention are moot. Society condemns it and men don't want to be associated.
Again, I think the "issue" came to be based on the fact that this brothah is a very active member of his Frat and men don't want their Frat to be associated with gay-ness. I think the question someone in another GLO asked on the Chit Chat board was very poignant...would this be as inflammatory if he were a serial killer/rapist/child molester? Yes and no. Yes, because I am sure many men of Alpha would see those acts as deplorable, however, it doesn't connote that every Alpha is a rapist/serial killer. etc. Moreso, it doesn't invite all serial killers and rapists to join Alpha, but the thought that gay men would see Alpha as "the gay man's Frat" is again, deplorable to heterosexual Alpha men. I say this because my most recent ex-boyfriend (LOSER) is an Alpha who is VERY anti-gay. I am an AIDS activist and try to get him to see the error in his ways. He ain't havin' it.
Mothaf____s just ain't tronna (yes I did say tronna) hear no gay itsh...point BLANK!!!
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