[aephi alum]

Final arrangements.....

I haven't really planned or formalized anything, but there are a few things I know I want.

I don't want to be wearing a dress or skirt. I don't wear them in life, why should I wear one in death? A good pant suit will do nicely.

No wake. (I'm Jewish, but most of my family is Catholic, and they may try to insist on a wake. I'm sure my husband will lay down the law, though.)

A simple funeral.

I haven't decided on burial vs. cremation. On the one hand, Jewish tradition calls for burial, and my husband wants to be buried, so if I'm cremated, our physical remains don't get to be together... on the other hand, the thought of my body lying in the ground rotting creeps me out.

My family should sit shiva, and then move on with their lives, remembering the good times we had together.

now I'm depressed...