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Originally posted by kddani
You have no idea what your life is going to be like when you're 22. A lot of things are going to change for you and in you in those 3 years. I changed SO much during that time. I pledged when I was 19, graduated when I was 21. Even by that time I found that I didn't have as much in common with the younger sisters. Forget about after I was 22!
You may not have the girls from your pledge class there. People leave for all different reasons. By the time I graduated, out of my pledge class of 15, about half had left the sorority- graduated early, quit for various reasons, etc.
And you may not "bond" with your pledge class like you think. There would still be an age/experience/maturity difference.
I'm in a gambling mood tonight (just won poker over a bunch of people who play all the time and this was my first night playing). I'd say IF you got a bid (which there is no guarantee of), you wouldn't last until you graduated. You'd resign, go alumna early, or just go MIA.
I know it's hard to realize and think about now. But people replying to this thread have all been there and done that, seen that, seen people who've gone through it. Believe it or not, we do know what we're talking about.  You may think you're special, but there's nothing all that different than those who have done it before.
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Wow, you make 22 sound over the hill.
I completely disagree with this. I pledged when I was 21. I bonded with my pledge class and my other sisters. A few were older than I was, but most of them were younger. We found common ground and bonded over that. Yes, I did only have 1 year as a collegiate, but I am now back as a chapter advisor. It's still possible to be active. She says she still a few years left, she can be a fully active member if this is something that she really wants.
I'm not suggesting that we sugar coat everthing and tell her that she'll find a place. She may not. We all know that. But don't discourage her from even trying. She may or may not find a place, but she definitly WILL NOT find one if she doesn't even give it a try. What's the worst that can happen? They say no, and she moves on.