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Originally posted by starang21
i can dig what this man is saying. it's already somewhat difficult to step to a chick you don't know an spark up convo. i don't particularly like it...then have to deal with an attitude waiting for me to say something crazy or mess up? naw, i'm good.
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You know what, starang? It is all about CONFIDENCE. If a guy can't approach a woman with confidence, he can keep it moving. You only get attitude when you come with a lame line or on some disrespectful angle. If men would just approach women, respectfully and with confidence, you all wouldn't get nearly as much attitude as you do.
It is like when you were trying to get to know members of the org you wanted to be a member of. You had to approach them confidently and respectfully. You would have never approached a member of Iota and said "Ay dawg. What yo' name iz? I'm trying to be down with that brown and gold ish". And if the member brushed you off, I know you wouldn't say "screw Iota. Y'all colors are ugly anyway." But that is what you all do to us. You would approach a member with respect and be serious about it. Women expect the same treatment.
Men need to realize that women (attractive ones) get approached by men ALL OF THE TIME. (Just like member of orgs get appraoched by interesteds all of the time.) It gets quite irritating when you come at us wrong. Don't think that when you approach that you are the first person that day to approach. You may be the 10th person--by that time all patience is gone and if you don't come correctly you will get embarassed.
At the same time, I think that many women DO get carried away with their responses. But most of the time it goes back to being badgered by idiot men so often that we are often frustrated and don't want to be bothered. Sometimes the guy who is sincerely interested gets brushed off...blame it on your friends. *shrugs shoulders*