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Originally posted by GreekLove
I met a guy...Then we started dating...he calls me two nights ago...He tells me that we’re moving too fast and that I’m the greatest girl that he’s ever met and that he really wants to be with me, but he’s used to his independence and blah blah blah....I am too busy for him...
So, my question to all of you is what should I do?
Do you think that he still cares about me and wants to be with me?
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OK Honey, you have a classic situation on your hands: he wants fun you want the relationship. He's not ready, you don't want to risk losing him by pushing him. My opinion, which I can't say is the best idea around, is to lay low and put him out of your head.
You're heading for spring break, and you do NOT want to mess up an awesome time like that. Nothing is more pathetic than a friend feeling lonely and sad while everyone is partying it up in college paradise. Have fun and see what happens when you guys get back.
I think you should wait for him to call you first and see what are the first words coming out of his mouth. "Wanna come over and do stuff?" or "I've been thinking a lot about us and think we need to..." He sounds like he's just freaking out about being in a relationship, maybe jitters. It's a normal guy reaction and we usually gauge a girl's reaction in order to figure out our next move.
So if this truly bothers you that he doesn't want to be just with you, then dump him and concentrate on your busy schedule. If you're having fun, then don't overanalyze his double speak with you and your friends. Guys like to pretend everything is on the up and up when they talk about girls they are seeing.
College is all about games like this, and if you don't want to play this one, no problem. But don't rest on any hope that he'll come around quickly and want to be with you. Show him that you are not going to be a pushover with this crap and be firm. My advice to lay low doesn't mean you should agree with his reasons, just recognize you get it and that you'll be keep your freedom at the same time
Also, this whole b.s. with him checking up on you at formal. Yea, I don't think that was a cool move on his part. If he's so concerned with you being with other people, maybe he should re-evaluate his independence and freedom argument. Good luck and make sure you have the greatest time on spring break!
RUgreek