Soror, I don't think that you should go to either if you really can't wish her well and truly want to be there. I don't think that any of us would want someone to come to our wedding or shower if that person really wasn't feeling us. Just say that you have other plans and can't make it to either.
SC
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Originally posted by Ideal08
Have you ever done this when invited by a coworker? Here's the thing... there are a total of 14 employees and only about half of us are in the DC office. If I don't go, it's going to be noticed. Well, I'm also the only Black person, so it'll really be noticed if I don't go. I don't want to go cuz I don't really like her all like that and I feel like I shouldn't be there for something so important if on the inside I'm all conflicted and can't offer true feelings of happiness and congratulations.
This is a perfect segue to the shower. We are throwing her a surprise shower here at work. I don't even wanna participate in that, either. This reminds me of that thread Bamboozled started, but after I read thru it, I realized it was different, so I started another thread.
What y'all think?
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