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Originally posted by alphagam-alum
Seems like "normal" behavior once your have been shat on by someone you love. It is normal to want to protect oneself, ones heart and soul from more pain.
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I have been screwed over by someone I was in love with. Guess what -- it's still not normal behavior. It doesn't matter if it's hard. Playing the part of the psycho just compounds the problem and makes both of you meaner and crazier. Most of the time in relationships like these, walking away is the only thing that's going to stop either of you from being crazy and hurt.
Reading his away messages to see what he's up to? Acceptable.
Driving past his house at random hours to see what he's up to? Unacceptable and a little crazy, although maybe acceptable if you only do it once and regret it afterward.
Cutting off the edges of his blinds so you can see into his window whenever you want? Psychotic, and the kind of behavior that leads to restraining orders.
This is why restraining orders exist, kids. Getting screwed over in love doesn't mean you get to do whatever you want to the person in order to make up for it.