[ASUADPi]

This is an interesting topic of discussion and I have a few comments.

1. I have actually thought about donating my eggs and in all honesty it was because I a) needed the money and b) have all the eggs I will ever have in my life. Yes, the thought of having a child out there that is partly mine was an issue. But I ended up deciding against it.

2. Fertility treatments: who are we (as a whole, society in general) to say to a woman that she can't go through treatments. The want and need for your own biological child is incredibly strong. I'm not even married but I know when I do get married I will try naturally to conceive but if I can't I will not hesitate to go through fertility treatments because I want to experience pregnancy. To feel your child kick for the first time inside you, would just be amazing. So even though I haven't gone through it I can totally understand why these women are going through what they are going through.

3. Adoption: I think other than the costs one thing that hasn't been said is the difficulties in adopting. Adopting in the United States, from what I've heard, is difficult. They do background checks, credit reports, check your finances, tons and tons of interviews and this isn't even including the costs of going through an adoption. Plus the laws in each state for how long a mother has until she can come back in and claim her child. In one state, it's 6 months. You could get a child and 6 months down the road this mom could come back into the picture and want her child back and you as the adoptive parent have no legal rights and I don't even think you get your money back. So there you've lost your child and the thousands upon thousands you've spent are down the drain. I've heard that adoptions in the US for newborns, 2 year waiting list.

And not to say that international adoption is any cheaper. You have to pay for the airfare. And you ain't just going once you have to go repeatedly. My second cousin recently adopted a little girl from China, they had to go over (from what I heard) 3 times. That is a lot of $$$$ if you are doing roundtrip airfare, hotel accomadations for you and your spouse. Again not even counting the cost of the adoption. This isn't also including the amount "red tape" one has to go through to do a international adoption.


I would actually like to adopt. There are tons of children out there who need good homes, but I want my own biological child also. And I have every right as a person to try to obtain of them.

Now these are just my opinions and my thoughts. I'm not pointing the finger at anyone.

Please just respect my opinion.