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Originally posted by sugar and spice
Regardless of the gender of the person doing it, it's still pretty psycho.
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Seems like "normal" behavior once your have been shat on by someone you love. It is normal to want to protect oneself, ones heart and soul from more pain. There are often situations that don't always allow the person to walk away-- it sounds nice to say-- "I have doubts, I am outta here" But give your heart and soul to a person, develop a life together, a family, and walking away suddenly isn't that easy. But if that gut feeling starts getting the best of you-- you NEED to do something, anything to squelch the feeling. Often that feeling only goes away after digging and answering those lingering questions. And there are ways not to get noticed digging around and ways to avoid looking like you have a mental disorder.
Cash, I would hope that you wouldn't bother with the time (or $$) keeping track of someone that you seriously aren't connected to--- if the girl you are digging dirt up on is not the girl you would committ yourself too, then don't bother. I think you all need to learn to trust-- I know it can be hard-- as hard as hell sometimes --- but if someone is worth it you need to give them a little room-- room to be themselves and prove themselves to you and your friends. I keep getting told by a few people I know that certain things should just be given time--- the simple actions of people will be made clear and they will prove themselves without them knowing it. (hope that make a little sense!)
AND you owe me some advice--- I am adding to that pm I sent the other night!
-w