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Originally posted by neonsparkles
I am still dating other guys of course... but none of them have the same appeal as he does.. and I am nervous about going out with him tonight (going to the bars and all of that you know are never a good idea when you are trying to hide a secret!)
What should I do (and I dont want to cheat.. so thats not an option?) and have any of you been in this situation?
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First off, I so thought this was going to be about "doing it in the butt" or something like that. sorry normally "i never thought i'd" on this forum gets to interesting places.
Okay, you say that none of the other guys have that same appeal that he does. I could be way way way off base. But of course they dont' - you never got this guy, your gettin' those guys. Its kinda like your no matter how many times you shoot the basketball at the carnival - you never get the big prize. You just get the lil' stuffed animals. And you still want that big prize!
Also - there's that lead of intrigue...b/c its "ooh does he like me, but no he has a gf, is this innocent?". I really hate to say it, but thats fun to do. Its fun to have this lil' secret nobody knows and its fun to keep guessing. Keep in mind, its only fun for a while! It gets real old real quick! Also - once that is gone, it sadly takes a lot away from what you thought was your relationship. *But it doesn't sound like you too have that much of a problem with it*
There's another advice thread like this and James pointed out that reactions would be different if it was in a reverse situation. Which this is sorta like that. Interesting.....check out the "advice" thread.
I"m not saying don't go after the guy... but he has to get his "stuff" taken care...and you need to know where you stand in all of this! If you're this great, wonderful girl friend thats awesome. Or if you're someone he wants to be with, even better.
I hope I kinda made sense.