Well . . its not so much just "out for sex" its about not being used as an emotional surrogate. The only sure way you are getting fair value for being an emotional surrogate is the sex. Sorry girls, thats just the way it is.
I also think its admirable that you are concerned about the girl's sensibilities. That you think its cool she isn't having sex with you because she is such a nice girl.
A nice, kind, sweet honest, honorable. . . . oops, i got caught up and added that extra word, honest, in there . . . .
A nice, kind . . . wait wait wait . . . how nice and kind is she to involve you in a cruel and calculated deception that involves lying and delberate cruelty to someone she freely made a promise to? How nice is she to precipitate a situation that has to end badly for someone in your little triangle?
Well . . someone other than her, since she has almost nothing at risk compared to you men.
I almost admire her. She is in a long distance relationship with someone she has a committment to, someone that represents security for her, and she has managed to get that extra attention she needs from you . . .. just with lots of talk and a little making out.
Thats not a bad situation to be in at all.
Keep in mind that you she may not be sleeping with you, but she is probably, or has been sleeping with him.
Also, keep in mind that she could have kept both relationships pure and honest by a simple phone call to him asking to see other people, but when push came to shove she immediately opted for dishonesty and manipulation.
Anyway, most of it depends on the timing. If she breaks up with her BF within 2-3 weeks of all this starting you should be pretty ok (until she cheats on you
), but if its longer than that, you are probably in for a rough ride.
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Originally posted by chopperLI905
hey james,
Not all of us are just out for sex and for that matter we haven't even had sex. And that is what i like about her is that we can make out and it doesnt had that way. Not to say i dont like sey but sex is not everything to me. I also found that if both of you are not ready to have sex then dont rush it bc it will just hurt each of you in the long run.
To everyone else so far thanks for the advice.
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