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Originally posted by 33girl
If you continue to view the current collegians as being in a "downward spiral" and they pick up that vibe, they're not going to embrace any of your ideas, or any help you might have to give them. You have to build on what's positive not complain about what's negative.
And I'll say again - not everyone wants to be the hugest sorority on campus. It's not a sin.
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When the chapter I advise has problems, I go in and lead a group facilitation as to what can be done to move forward from the problem. I have training in this area and I don't lecture the girls during this process. I let it be
their process and make
them take responsibility to make the change. Sometimes it helps other times it impacts them, but doesn't make the changes that I know they're capable of. But...ultimately...it's not my chapter to determine what happens...it's up to the collegiates.
Where I do take control of the group is during periods where blaming, negativity or disrespect of others take place...then I jump in and process with the group how these behaviors are unproductive and swing back to a productive stance.
Maybe some type of facilitation to find out what your chapter needs vs. wants may help...but it needs to be done by someone who won't end up on the defensive if the advisor don't hear the answers they want...or by someone who will run the group with their own agenda...