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PHA,
I took a look at your website and was surprised to see what seems to be such a one sex takes the blame viewpoint. The problem as I see it is that, historically and even today, Black men and women have not worked as a team to raise our children with balance. If see things from that perspective, you will see that it *can't* be all a woman's fault, because, even if she was too far on the, say left, that man should have been there to balance some of that out. The problem is not Black women, the problem is the breakdown of the family structure, which happened a long time ago and the damaging effects in contemporary times were seen as early as the 20's when Black women were raising children as single mothers - even if those days - yes, those days. Until we raise our boys to see men while growing up (true men) and be men when grown and stop making them into momma's boys and bailing out our "babies" everytime they get in trouble and letting them stay in our basements until they are 30 years old, and not demanding that they treat that woman that they are seeing with respect, they will continue to not contribute to the family structure - and it is not a Black woman's fault solely - it is the Black man's fault also for not being in the home and/or not being a presence in the life of that boy. The same happens with girls - girls need men in their lives, just like boys do. Therefore, the blame should not lie with black women, it is simply a breakdown of the family structure. And until people get this idea out of their heads that single motherhood is just as good as having a balanced, healthy male-female family, it is going to continue...b/c a woman can't provide everything ...for a boy, nor for a girl. It takes a balance that only having lived as a man and having lived as a woman can provide.
As for Feminism messing up the family, the family was messed up before that. In fact, some of us went to Feminism b/c we were tired of being relegated to the back of the room whenever there was a Black pride/movement/Civil Rights meeting. This has been the fate of Black women - shut up and support your man to show racial solidarity, even when we are treated unfairly w/in our own race and relegated to a second-class position. It's just like the Anita Hill thing. Everybody was all up in arms when she told on that fool Clarence Thomas. Why? B/c here was a Black woman who (there is this unspoken rule) is supposed to keep quiet, even to her *own* detriment to support the Black man - yet, this fool was out there and if we would have bothered to listen to her, then maybe that we wouldn't have that idiot now - the same fool who refuses to write an opinion of his *own* most times when almost all Supreme Court Justices put in their own two cents in most cases. So the Feminist movement is not what hurt Black women - again, we need balance between Black men and women - that's the problem.
SC
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